Thoughts from replies to the survey for Big Big Love II

[moominmuppet]

Whenever I take surveys with a lot of free text answers I try to copy them out for my own reference. These are my answers to some of the free text questions on the survey for the new version of Big Big Love about sexuality and fat. I may expand on them if I have enough brain cells rubbing together (I'm kind of migrainey and brainfoggish, and wasn

Comments

[ex_serenejo]

I have been reluctant to read her stuff on fat issues since that whole secret-weight-loss-diet-blog thing. I still think she's pretty awesome, but that left a bad taste in my mouth, as it were.

[moominmuppet]

Huh, I didn't know about that, but it doesn't sound good. What's the deal?

[lilyofthewest]

I didn't know anything about it until just now, but I was curious and the great google machine found this: http://laurietobyedison.com/discuss/?p=426

[moominmuppet]

*chuckle* Great minds think alike; that's the same link I was coming over here to post!

[moominmuppet]

*nod* I wish there had been a question that addressed that -- "is body size a major factor in your dating choices" or something.

Although there are some physical features that will turn my head on the street, and larger/heavier people are more likely to have that effect, my actual partner choice is like yours. I have partners who are fat, partners who are thin, partners who are in-between. In each case, it's their own unique body, and that's awesomely cool and sexy.

Taking the F word back

[mn_cpl]

I like hearing the "F word" in our dirty talk. I.e. "Fuck my fat ass!" But, I'll admit, it's not a word I'd throw out for just anyone.

Re: Taking the F word back

[moominmuppet]

*nod* It's a word I generally only use in reference to myself, or in talking about large-scale politics. I'm not comfortable attaching a potentially hurtful word to anyone who doesn't choose it for themselves.

[vinnie_tesla]

I draw a firm line between being appreciated and being fetishized

Would you be interested in saying more about where you see the line, and what its markers are? It's a tricky subject, that's come up in my own journal from time to time, and I feel sympathy for both sides in a lot of the disconnects I encounter here.

[moominmuppet]

Ooh, chewy topic; thanks! I'll work on a post about it.