Comments | mookanoo05: capstone civic engagement!

mookanoo05

capstone civic engagement!

Dec 02, 2009 20:01

For those of you who don’t know, I’m involved in Capstone this semester before I graduate. As a part of the curriculum, I’m required to actually civically engage in the issue I choose as my topic. For my project, I chose to write on polygamy. It raises numerous social questions, and I realized at the beginning of the semester that I didn’t really ( Read more... )

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this is what i think! anonymous December 3 2009, 15:09:51 UTC

Having more that one spouse, sounds interesting at first “Oh cool you get to have more than just one man”. Well yeah it sounds fun and maybe it is. But lets think about this… what would happen if you fall in love with a man and then get married and find out your not the only one. That would just destroy me and having to share a man in every aspect I don’t thing is sane or sanitary. Knowing that he had so go find some one else cause having you isn’t good enough or loves you enough. Knowing this would drive me crazy; I don’t know how I could live a life with someone like this. I mean for the one marring all this different partners they might think its fun and that they are then sun that every thing will revolve around them, but in reality this person has along to live up to, how will you separate your time, and emotions and financially its not very smart. Having to take care of one person is hard enough raising families with several people, not that stable ( ... )

love_to_love05 December 3 2009, 21:46:01 UTC

I'd like to hear about what the woman you interviewed had to say. Personally, I don't agree with it for many reasons, mainly religious ones. I don't know how I feel about it being criminal. How do they regulate it now? Is it just completely impossible to be married to two people at once? Or if it is possible and the government or authorities find out, are they arrested for it? I guess I'd have to have more information in order to form my own opinion.

mookanoo05 December 4 2009, 00:08:23 UTC

The regulation of polygamy is a state-by-state situation. In Utah the Attorney General has said that he won't track people down just for being polygamists, but he will tack on the bigamy charge if they are on trial for something else. The way people keep it secret right now is they only file for a state marriage license once, and all of the 'marriages' after that are only religious ceremonies. They run around saying that they're 'married' but it's not legally filed with the state. If they don't file with the state, the state never really knows.

love_to_love05 December 4 2009, 05:29:23 UTC

Ah ha. I figured it was something like that. So how do they choose which one to marry? Does that cause jealousy amongst the other wives?

anonymous December 4 2009, 00:53:32 UTC

Do you need our name or age or anything? This is Jessica Wyatt if you need more info

Even before I think in a religion sense I think that marry more than one man cometley goes against marriage and what it stands for. While many don't view marriage as scared and pure as most use to, I sill do. I think it's wrong to just go around getting married and divorce on a whim, same with marrying multiple people at one time.

Polygamy anonymous December 4 2009, 01:38:20 UTC

In reading your article, it brings up a lot of things that I never considered having been raised Catholic/Christian. I feel that it is OK to take care of your brother's widow without marrying her. I cannot think of any reason that a man would want to marry more than one woman except for one thing and I don't know too many women who are secure enough to share their man. I know some men who cannot stand to be around their wives when they are PMS'ing or who cannot tolerate their mother-in-laws. Can you imagine that issue time 4 or 5? I feel that women who enter into a polygamist relationship go into it uneducated and pass on that ignorance to their offspring. This country was founded on Christian beliefs and morals and I believe that it should remain so. If your religion OK's numerous wives then go to the country of your religion's origin and practice your beliefs there.

Re: Polygamy soulfood59 December 13 2009, 21:52:28 UTC

Sorry but I disagree with your statement. This country was founded on Christian ideologies as well as the belief that women shouldn't vote or own their own land and that Africans should be our slaves. Americans today practice lots of ideas that go against what the founding fathers intended. If you have a problem with that, you're the one who needs to move to another country.

Re: Polygamy soulfood59 December 13 2009, 21:54:18 UTC

Also, Mormonism (which goes easy on Polygamy) was founded in America, so by your standards it's OK for Polygamists to stay in the U.S.

anonymous December 4 2009, 04:59:10 UTC

It's amusing how the thought of polygamy has become such a commercialized topic. What with television airing an actual reality show documenting a polygamist family's life, HBO's award winning drama "Big Love" (which I greatly enjoy watching mind you) and even Hugh Hefner and his amusing ability to maintain more girlfriends than I have fingers. This lifestyle --or religious calling as some believe it to be-- is very socially queer, we know this. In "Big Love" the main family consists of one husband and three sister-wives (told you I watched it) and how they deal with the many negative outside forces pulling their family apart. You feel for the family and eventually begin cheering them on, being with them every step of the way. Of course this is made for tv drama. Not all polygamist families are this exciting but at the same time, just like most cultures there are those that go to extremes. That is where my issue lies. There are individuals (mostly men) who believe they have the ability to hold ones life in their hands; whether it be ( ... )