LJ Idol - Week 23 - Endurance

[monkeysugarmama]

I didn't know the truth about my parent's marriage for a long time. When I was a child, all I knew was the fairytale, complete with true love and a happily ever after.

My mom grew up in Michigan. The oldest of eight kids in a very Catholic household, her father died when she was just 12 years old. One summer afternoon, as they sat watching

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[brightflashes]

Very gripping all the way through. Thanks for this entry. : )

[monkeysugarmama]

Thank you so much!

[monkeysugarmama]

Hey, you! Thank you for reading!

And yes - there is always so much of a story that people never get to see. While it saddened me a little to learn of my mom's cooler approach to her marriage, it as also fascinating to discover.

[bretzysdude]

Wonderfully written and very insightful. I love your description of your dad on paragraph 7.

[monkeysugarmama]

He is still very much that way - and he always loved St. Patrick's day when he could talk about how his family had all kissed the Blarney Stone :)

[xo_kizzy_xo]

I love your stories :)

I never knew that my dad was married when he met my mom. No kids, and by the time he'd met Mom he'd been separated for a good number of years. He had to seek out his estranged wife to file for divorce before he and Mom married. Needless to say, I never knew anything about this until I was well into adulthood ;)

[monkeysugarmama]

Thank you!

That sounds so much like my paternal grandfather's story! My grandparents (the granmma I talked about a few weeks back?) were not married until after their third child was born - my father. My granddad was 15 years older than my gramma. He had been married and was estranged from his wife when they got together. They even had two kids together! And it took that long for her to agree to an actual divorce.

That was back in the 1930's too, so they were really living outside the norm!

[kittenboo]

it is so true what can happen to a marriage when you have kids. it is hard work to keep the relationship working. heck marriage is hard work, isn't it.

[monkeysugarmama]

No joke.

Do you think it is easier or harder having Scott gone so frequently? On one hand it's like a great reunion every week when he gets home, on the other, doesn't it get lonely being there, just you and the boy sometimes?

I have the hardest time balancing mommy duties, with wifely duties with taking care of myself too...what's that Sheryl Crow line? "No one said it would be easy, but no one said it'd be this hard."

[kittenboo]

scott is gone roughly one week every other month, so he isn't gone too much. And I usually go stay with my parents in new york so they have time with indy.

i hate being alone, so yeah, it would get really lonely and frustrating if i was home alot with just us.

having a baby throws everything out of wack, and it can take a lot of hard work to get the relationship back to where you want it to be. that is something i absolutely wasn't expecting. like you said, no one said it'd be easy to have a baby, but no one said it would be that hard to fgure things out in the beginning.