#Oneanddone

[mom_after_ed]

I have exciting news! I am 0 weeks, 0 days pregnant! And hope to stay that way. For the rest of my life. Aka: I consider myself an unofficial "one and done" type of gal. I do suppose it's only natural that I've been asked "Are you planning another?" with increasing frequency over the last few months...though it sometimes takes me by surprise (my

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hey tough girl

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sorry, typing 1-handed

other 1 occupied (held hostage) by baby

i sometimes miss the attention i was able to give kenny when it was only him

or think about what it would be like for each child i have to be an only, for that reason

wouldn't trade any of them for the world, but i did feel tremendous guilt when the 2nd was born

b-bot has cousins, and they will be her brothers and sisters

hope you enjoyed my telegraph

Re: hey tough girl

[mom_after_ed]

I hear you! I think guilt is a constant companion of so many aspects of motherhood--I felt it when I started thinking about being "one and done" and I've felt it at other times over other things. We're not alone--I know full-time working moms who feel guilt about putting their kids in daycare, and stay-at-home moms who feel guilty about not "working," etc. etc. In the end, I'm okay with guilt creeping up from time to time...if anything I suppose I've learned to feel equanimous. But it never quite goes away. What kinds of things made you feel guilty when your 2nd was born?

And yes--I loved your telegraph:-).

Re: hey tough girl

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The right choice for you. B also has a gaggle of cousins to grow up with so I don't think she will be lonely.

Re: hey tough girl

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I felt guilty after 2nd one was born because suddenly I had to divide my efforts. Boy#2 had to share attention from the beginning, Boy#1 did not. Was I talking to him enough? Engaging him enough? Giving him a good head start?

I still worry about these things.