I'm glad to know I am not the only one to wonder about this. I've always liked the aesthetics of Islamic hajib, but have never wanted it assumed that I am Muslim. Not because it is bad, but because I am Christian and it would be awkward.
When I'm in mourning I tend to wrap a piece of black fabric around my head and keep it in place with hairgrips. Usually I wrap it behind my neck because I find it more comfortable, but it also means that it looks sufficiently distinct from the hijab.
There are some cool tips on the website you linked to, too. If you haven't already, take a look at the "How do I tie my scarf?" link on the left. I think what they call The Bun is closest to what I do.
I have much the same issue about work, and I have chosen to cover partially, using a very broad Alice band. It covers about as much of my hair as a small triangular headscarf would, and doesn't get any comment from my colleagues. On the way to and from work, I wear a hat.
Outside work, I either do the same or wear an actual headscarf, either a small one tied in a triangle or a larger one using the "Crown" style from the Tznius website. In London, that goes more or less unnoticed. It does affect the reactions I get from passersby, but I think it is subconscious on their part: I seem to pass completely under the radar of the men, which is rather nice (no wolfwhistles etc), whereas conversely, women seem more likely to approach me for directions etc.
Well, I can't really offer any advice on covering your hair because I'm Christian, but I am a woman of modest dress. When I was younger, I wore what everyone else wore - the trendy clothes, tight jeans, tank-tops. But since I have found God and grown-up more, I have more respect for myself and believe showing my skin should definitely be saved for my own privacy and my future husband. While my family is Christian, they aren't entirely used to my "new" changes in attire ( I started wearing long-skirts or skirts to the knees - no pants anymore - around October ). But, this is how I choose to live my life and there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with dressing more modestly. Don't worry about what your co-workers think. ^^
im messianic jewish and believe in dressing modestly as well. I don't know if this is appropriate but my mom and I run a site that specializes in modest apparel and headcoverings for women, we have a few that you might like. http://www.zipporahreshel.com
I myself wear a headcovering when I want to be closer to Elohim, and when I am in a state of worship or prayer. I do not worry about wearing it all the time since there is nothing in Torah requiring it for women, but I like it for modesty purposes and just the way they make me feel...namely- humbled, before Elohim. It serves as a constant reminder that I am under His "covering", and its just an awesome feeling. =)
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There are some cool tips on the website you linked to, too. If you haven't already, take a look at the "How do I tie my scarf?" link on the left. I think what they call The Bun is closest to what I do.
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Outside work, I either do the same or wear an actual headscarf, either a small one tied in a triangle or a larger one using the "Crown" style from the Tznius website. In London, that goes more or less unnoticed. It does affect the reactions I get from passersby, but I think it is subconscious on their part: I seem to pass completely under the radar of the men, which is rather nice (no wolfwhistles etc), whereas conversely, women seem more likely to approach me for directions etc.
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Well, I can't really offer any advice on covering your hair because I'm Christian, but I am a woman of modest dress. When I was younger, I wore what everyone else wore - the trendy clothes, tight jeans, tank-tops. But since I have found God and grown-up more, I have more respect for myself and believe showing my skin should definitely be saved for my own privacy and my future husband. While my family is Christian, they aren't entirely used to my "new" changes in attire ( I started wearing long-skirts or skirts to the knees - no pants anymore - around October ). But, this is how I choose to live my life and there is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with dressing more modestly. Don't worry about what your co-workers think. ^^
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I myself wear a headcovering when I want to be closer to Elohim, and when I am in a state of worship or prayer. I do not worry about wearing it all the time since there is nothing in Torah requiring it for women, but I like it for modesty purposes and just the way they make me feel...namely- humbled, before Elohim. It serves as a constant reminder that I am under His "covering", and its just an awesome feeling. =)
~moriyah
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