I haven't owned a home yet. I'm not entirely sure I want to either - what does that make me? Chickenshit? Cowardly? Refusing to grow up? Lost? Childish? Selfish?
Smart, it makes you smart. Home ownership is a double edge sword, yah at the price of renting these days at least the money is going towards "something" and you can say screw you it's mine... on the other hand when stuff breaks, paint peels, roof leaks .... it's yours too.
There are definitely days where I wish I could walk away and get something pretty, shiny for nearly what we pay now a month.
possibly with no freakin lawn to moe.
*sigh*
pay no attention to me... I am definitely disgruntled today.
True, but it probably won't be the current house. If we were in an apartment, we'd be able to pick up and move without having to try unload the house in this shitty market. Home ownership has it's good and bad moments. Right now it's bad.
Right now, I don't really feel like I have a home. I do not belong here in this house; I'm just sleeping here. I have not felt like I had a home since I lived with Jason and his family in 1999-2000 and in Detroit in 2001-2002. Those were solid times.
I want to settle down, I have for years now, but I don't feel as if settling down necessarily means having to stay put. To me, it means finding a pattern/lifestyle that makes you feel complete and safe. Whether that is a family in a home or travelling the world, it just means what your heart needs.
So, I don't think there is a thing "wrong" with you and good luck as you figure this out.
I lived well during the 90s in Detroit, but that's because I was almost commune living. I had friend living in the same apartment complex as I; we ate together, shopped together, etc.
Sorry for the late response; we just got back from Milwaukee.
Have you read Kim Stanley Robinson's 40-50-60 trilogy? There's a character there who, when he can't find an apartment, becomes a... roamer, I guess. He builds a treehouse in a park, sleeps there sometimes, rents a van and sleeps in the back other times. He figures it's like having a two-bedroom apartment, only one bedroom's in a tree and the other is mobile. He gets a gym membership and showers there.
I love my home, but I'm kind of envious of him. I've really been getting into the idea of sleeping outside (only not in Florida in the summer, gah), and I really like the idea of stripping down to essentials and being so mobile.
Who was it who said the things you own end up owning you?
Lilly from French Kiss, or at least that's what my brain comes up with.
I love being mobile. I have two cages on my front porch with huge wheels. They make me happy because all my decorations and bits can roll out of my home and go anywhere right now.
I want all my furniture to have big wheels, just for that.
Mmmmm.
I've done the stripping down. It's a good thing, cleans out one's life and helps focus on what's important. What do you need - what you really need.
And we should go camping this winter. I'm dying for a tent.
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Smart, it makes you smart. Home ownership is a double edge sword, yah at the price of renting these days at least the money is going towards "something" and you can say screw you it's mine... on the other hand when stuff breaks, paint peels, roof leaks .... it's yours too.
There are definitely days where I wish I could walk away and get something pretty, shiny for nearly what we pay now a month.
possibly with no freakin lawn to moe.
*sigh*
pay no attention to me... I am definitely disgruntled today.
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I don't know. I always think when I find the right place....what if I never find it?
Blah. Time for a drink.
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I want to settle down, I have for years now, but I don't feel as if settling down necessarily means having to stay put. To me, it means finding a pattern/lifestyle that makes you feel complete and safe. Whether that is a family in a home or travelling the world, it just means what your heart needs.
So, I don't think there is a thing "wrong" with you and good luck as you figure this out.
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Maybe that's what I need.
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Not being a home owner means not having to
say you're sorry....to be paying property
taxes. ;)
Mine have been around 500 bucks a year, and
this year they are going up.
Great timing, too. *grumbles*
I'd let the place go to the bank one day, but
this is still the cheapest 'rent' and it's
mine. And it's home. *sigh*
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Have you read Kim Stanley Robinson's 40-50-60 trilogy? There's a character there who, when he can't find an apartment, becomes a... roamer, I guess. He builds a treehouse in a park, sleeps there sometimes, rents a van and sleeps in the back other times. He figures it's like having a two-bedroom apartment, only one bedroom's in a tree and the other is mobile. He gets a gym membership and showers there.
I love my home, but I'm kind of envious of him. I've really been getting into the idea of sleeping outside (only not in Florida in the summer, gah), and I really like the idea of stripping down to essentials and being so mobile.
Who was it who said the things you own end up owning you?
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I love being mobile. I have two cages on my front porch with huge wheels. They make me happy because all my decorations and bits can roll out of my home and go anywhere right now.
I want all my furniture to have big wheels, just for that.
Mmmmm.
I've done the stripping down. It's a good thing, cleans out one's life and helps focus on what's important. What do you need - what you really need.
And we should go camping this winter. I'm dying for a tent.
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Before we go camping, you have to come over and see our house. :) But yeah, camping this winter would be fun.
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YES! Visit. Mmmmmm. The boy's going camping. I would love to come do adult things.
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