Comments | missa_k: Many splendored thing?

missa_k

Many splendored thing?

Nov 24, 2005 12:59

Since it's still a few hours until I get to eat turkey and I have nothing better to do, I think it's time to spend a few moments thinking.

( Cut for length, it's a bit of a tale )

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wenelda November 24 2005, 20:33:50 UTC

i'm glad that situation got worked out. i was a little concerned, but i figured that whatever happened would be what's supposed to happen, and it just managed to work out. :)

missa_k November 24 2005, 20:34:56 UTC

It worked out better than I could have predicted, that's for sure :)

Are you having a happy Turkey Day?

wenelda November 24 2005, 20:42:45 UTC

which is always a good thing.

yep. :)

missa_k November 25 2005, 04:01:58 UTC

Yup, I'm really grateful to have all these cool people in my life, you being one of them of course :)

missourimarmot November 25 2005, 05:08:43 UTC

wowowowowowowowwow.

wow.

i read that initial post, and didn't have the slightest idea there was this titillating tale behind it. 'course, i tend to be rather naive...

Missa, i applaud your restraint. partially for my own selfish reasons, of course. 'cause that's exactly what i didn't receive, restraint. and now i'm left thinking that we should bring back stoning for people who cheat on their partners.

and i admire you for being willing to put it all out there like that. (thank god i'm not the only one! :)

i hope James knows how incredibly lucky he is...

missa_k November 25 2005, 15:42:13 UTC

Thanks, Bruce! I feel like I made the right decision, though I still think that I let things go a little too far just in my own head, even.

Well, I'm pretty damn lucky, too. I mean, I can't imagine living without James and I certainly wouldn't want to try. I would hope that if a similar situation presented itself to him he would make the same choice.

die_fledermaus November 26 2005, 17:51:32 UTC

I hope you don't stone me...I wasn't exactly the most faithful person in past relationships...ok, one in particular...But we were officially taking a break...So does that count???

=(

missourimarmot December 7 2005, 15:29:46 UTC

no, it's your choice whether you need to get stoned. :-P

i'd say it depends on what your mutual understanding was of being "on break". in my own situation, i basically said "you do what you need to do, just don't count on me being okay with it." in other words, i couldn't say in advance what the consequences might be.

die_fledermaus November 26 2005, 17:50:30 UTC

WOW, how amazing are YOU??? This shows such courage and maturity, that you took a breath and sorted out your priorities and the people who are most important to you. That is awesome, Missa, you're so great. ^_^

(Better than me...Let's just say it's probably a good thing I'm single and don't plan on dating seriously for a while...^_~ But let's not go there.)

missa_k November 27 2005, 16:22:57 UTC

lol, thanks Vivi-chan. I don't know that the decision I made was any better or worse than another one (I can think of several people who would chastise me for not taking the opprotunity) but for me it felt like the right thing to do. I think that usually no matter what choice we make everything ends up all right in the end. Sometimes they're not always the best choices, but so long as we don't die as a result of them they help us make different choices later on in life :)