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[mirrorballmoon]

Well, shit. When I grow up, if this psychology thing doesn't work out, I'm gonna buy a bookshop, and I'm gonna be surly and rude to all the customers, and I'm not gonna brush my hair, and I'm gonna tease Bill Bailey about his hair, and sometimes The Actor Kevin Eldon will show up and scare the beejeebus out of everyone, and there'll be an

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[mirrorballmoon]

It's just that I don't get why that city centre bar would be worse than another almostbutnotquite city centre bar. That and the email thing.

It's too big a coincidence to ignore, for a start. I'm not going down to destiny route, yikes, but I can't dismiss the fact that he was odd towards the one person I am already friends with on the site!

[cyranocyrano]

So did he say aught besides "Benedict's makes me nervous"?
Were his parents killed at Benedict's? Is it haunted? Is Benedict's considered the turf of the Jets, and he's a Shark?

[mirrorballmoon]

...he's a Shark? What? Oh. Not thaaat kind of Shark. Don't confuse me, you. ;)

Yeah, that was all he said. There could be a perfectly legit reason but it's not as if I said "oh let's meet at a dogfight :D!" or something. So... hmmm.

Just doesn't feel right.

[cyranocyrano]

Sorry, musical theatre still beats hockey in my life experience. (:
And I can understand being apprehensive. And if he's been skeevy in the past, then it might be best to wave him on.

[mirrorballmoon]

This is why you get your friends to join dating sites with you.

Or why you shouldn't bloody join them IN THE FIRST PLACE.

She did suggest that we meet in Starbucks of which there is a branch a minute from my office, and she sit at another table and pretend to know nothing about any of this. Which could work! But seems a hell of a lot of hassle.

[meteorology]

I think you're doing the right thing. It's better to be safe than sorry, and I would be suspicious about this guy, too.

There's still hope for dating sites, though. It's just that you have to be very patient, and actively search and take some wild chances rather than letting people come to you.

The first time I joined Match, I didn't really do anything except wonder why all the guys who were winking at me were either blatantly only after one thing or blatantly had nothing in common with me (or both).

The second time, I actually paid, then did a search for what I was looking for and went around winking at every profile that looked okay, even if I thought the guy was probably way out of my league or might turn out to be an asshole.

Desperate? Maybe. But the guy I ended up dating was one of the ones about whom I thought He won't be interested in me but I'll give it a try, anyway. We only dated for a month but I was the one who ended it, and it was nothing to do with him, so all in all, the potential for something good was there

[karrotsoup]

Yes I think he is skeevy BUT that is just my opinion. I totally do not feel put upon to do the whole starbucks thing. I think that would be a good idea and then you can make up your own mind.

[mirrorballmoon]

Bah, I dunno. I'm not terribly thrilled about him finding out where I work. Call me a paranoid bint if yer like, but we know better than anyone what calibre of nutter you can meet online, don't we...

This is unfair, he might be nice. But instincts ain't often wrong.

[offside]

aw that's a shame but yay for instincts. def. better safe than sorry.

[mirrorballmoon]

That's the philosophy I abide to :)