Some Thoughts on Femininity

[miriamg]

Over at sarahblack's journal, I hinted that I had some particular thoughts on femininity. I hope you didn't come here expecting some great insights, because you might get disappointed. Just like with many of my other particular thoughts, they might not make much sense or be very important for anyone but me.

Anyway, as anyone who's met me should know, I'm

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[luzifer_]

I think you make a very good point there, I think it's something a lot of people do without realising it or thinking about it.
Personally, I just don't like calling clothes 'feminine' or 'masculine'. I realise some clothes are made with reference to the female and male bodies etc., but I wish there was less of a definition. When I go shopping for clothes, I still get a few odd looks if I try on clothes in the men's department. But they look just as good on me as on any bloke, so why shouldn't I want to wear them?

[sarahblack]

Valid point. People should just be who they are, but it takes a lot of guts to do that.

Then, slowly, I came to realise that there's nobody I need to impress. If I need to look like a doll for a boy to like me, he's not worth my time anyway. If I need to look like a doll for a girl to want to be friends with me, she's not likely to be a good friend.

I think most people do know this, but are too afraid of rejection to just be themselves. It's often easier to succumb to society's wishes. At least that way, if you're rejected, it will only the "fake you" that's rejected.

I think it takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there. Just go: 'This is me, take it or leave it.' And then not break down when people decided to leave it.

Of course, it's so much more rewarding when people 'take it'. Then you know that they're truly accepting you for who you are.

... and that's what makes it worth it. :)

[penella22]

Just hopped over here from where you posted this entry in wtf_sexism and...found this helpful. So thank you.

I think in my own life, sometimes the fight to *escape* the kitchen, the make-up, the whatever ends up totally overshadowing whatever 'feminine' things I *do* like. But, like you said, hopefully one day we'll get there...