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mikkduncan

Riddle me this Batman....

Mar 08, 2005 04:46

Yeah so I have had a question on my mind for quite sometime now. And where some of you I expect to find this humorous, well just be nice anyway. I am having trouble understanding trans dressing dating. Don't get me wrong, I am not an active participant, maybe then I would get it. So here is the dilemma for me. How can a homosexual relationship ( Read more... )

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coleenie March 9 2005, 12:45:11 UTC

I spent years trying to understand this, as a friend of mine is a post-op trannie. (male to female)

the only thing with out getting into a detailed converstation over LJ about is that there are a few factors to key in - A: most people are inherantly bisexual, not hetero or gay no matter what they claim B: If you love the person enough you can get over pyshical differances and C: (and lets talk about pissing off people here) SOME, not all, sexual desires are infact subconsous desires or backlashings... you know. freud.

I haven't slep[t in a few days so my mind isn't working, let alone my hands. so. not the greatest time for me to reply to somthing I feel I acutlly know a something about. horray.

the_bustoid March 10 2005, 22:23:08 UTC

I think it has something to do with too many people in the homosexual community confusing their sexual identities with their actual identities ( ... )

coleenie March 19 2005, 16:58:30 UTC

ok I know this is a late reply, but also ask yourself what is learned behaviour and what isn't. That is one of the biggest misteries/debates in understanding the human mind.

Time for me to pop in on this....Part One louisfriend March 20 2005, 22:55:13 UTC

I suppose the main question of this is "why would a person be 'butch' or 'effeminate' if it is against the societal standards of the era to do so ( ... )

Part Two... louisfriend March 20 2005, 22:55:38 UTC

As for being "bisexual," I personally believe that that is a crock as well. Again, if sexuality is a descriptor of an action, a "bisexual" is not a person that likes both females and males, but has NO PREFERENCE in their choice of sexual mates. They could be gay or straight or god-damned, fucking polka-dotted, but none of that matters because one's sexuality is simply somebody else's definition of their actions ( ... )

Re: Part Two... mikkduncan March 21 2005, 10:13:49 UTC

"You see, all the psychology in the world will never be able to define that which is as fickle as chocolate ice cream vs. vanilla ice cream."

Wow, that was a good line.

Yah kinda beat the hell out of me at the end there. *grin*

But we still have not answered the question here folks. What my question is still more about how those lines can be crossed and crossed again? Is it as my dear Louis Friend correct that the truth is there is no line? There has to be if one could definitely choose to never partake of either case. If some can define their own sexuality for a fact. That "secure" you could say. Then there is a point that they will not cross, a line. And the I guess prettier but sad side of that is an easy example. Ever had a big fucking crush on another member of the opposite sex and had their intentions hail another? That can reverse itself as well. But those relationships do not happen because there is a distinctive line. So how does that work???

Whaddya got???

Peace, Love and Chocolates,
~~Mikk

Re: Part Two... louisfriend March 22 2005, 00:47:30 UTC

I believe that you have failed to see my point, though. There is no "line." There are only relative truths that each of us have the responsibility to translate into "common ground" on which each of us can agree or agree-to-disagree.

You want someone to "define their own sexuality for a fact...", but none of us can with full assuredness...because there is no such thing. Am I "secure" in my checking off the box that says "Straight/Heterosexual"? Sure. But is it because I like to bury my cock in a pussy? Because I like football, pork rinds, NASCAR, racist jokes, sexist comments, beer, Starter jackets, etc? No...none of these things define my "sexuality" because an attempt to define that which does not exist can NOT be defined.

If there is a need to define my "sexuality," it is only an external need to categorize, file, and dissect my actions, intentions, and preferences. My actions are heterosexual, my preferences are heterosexual, my mind is human, my body is of the male gender. What more is there to be "secure" about?

LF

Re: Part Two... mikkduncan March 24 2005, 02:40:34 UTC

I might have been a bit unclear in my last post. The line that will not be crossed is more of in line of a "Chasing Amy" style crush that goes nowhere. Line. The line does not get crossed. If it’s a preference thing then still a line has been drawn ( ... )

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