I had a really productive conversation with a friend about how FB can be a very valuable tool. I will likely be going back soon. But I think I need to limit it or something. It is the worst time sink for me, and I dislike that.
I love Mahjong! I have that and a few other games on my Kindle Fire. I don't use it as much for the brain stimulation as I do Freecell/Sudoku and the like, but yeah. It's wonderful. :)
Thank you! <3 <3 Things are coming together slowly. I'm good with that.
*hugs* Long story short: 2 dear friends who are both conservative got into a fight on my wall about an issue. This ONE post I made caused division between people I am 99% positive would love each other if they met in person.
This event happened right after *another* friend had a fight break out on HIS wall and I got caught in the crossfire. I decided FB is too negative for me at the moment and ditched it.
A dozen people reached out wanting to know if I was ok/what happened/OMG ARE YOU OK AUGH!
I was overwhelmed. I hid. I talked to a few people who reached out and after one particularly eloquent friend made the case that it's a tool for reaching people I care about and that it's something *I* should use, and not let it use me, I started reconsidering.
I am still considering, but I'll probably be back after a break. Seems like people like me or something. ;)
This is exactly how I feel about Facebook. It ropes you in like a highly-addictive drug, wastes your time, and distorts your perception of reality and what's actually important. I got sick of scrolling down my Newsfeed through endless drivel and codswallop that was of no interest or relevance to me. I also found that the amount of general idiocy I encountered on it (things of no real consequence, such as people's inability to construct a simple sentence or use punctuation) was making me an angry person, and anger is a thing I am extremely uncomfortable with.
I've decided that I do need to keep FB so that I can maintain contact with close friends and family, but I've managed to draw myself away from it by 'unfollowing' all my contacts. As soon as I did that, I seemed to break the chains that were tying me to it.
I basically got into the terrible habit of refreshing FB all the time while I was in the hospital. Until I break that bad habit, I think I'm going to stay away. (And given that I keep reaching for my phone, wanting to go to FB, I have not broken the habit yet.)
Eventually, though, I'll go back. Just because it IS the fastest/easiest way to keep in touch with over 100 friends. -.-
Yes, I've been exactly the same myself, and have found that not only has it wasted my time and caused me to be extremely unproductive (which in itself leads to dissatisfaction and unhappiness), but that my interactions with people on there were making me angry and depressed. I also got frustrated and began to think I must be really boring and/or annoying when nobody responded to my posts, even though it was very likely because nobody had seen them due to Facebook's stupid algorithms. It's just a horrible site altogether.
When you think about it, life went on perfectly well before Facebook existed. What would actually change if we weren't on it? We'd have to interact with people in real life! I don't honestly think anything terrible will happen if I greatly limit my presence on there, and the time I spend on it. I no longer want to be enslaved by it and I feel it's up to me to take control of the situation.
I will be trying to keep up more here as well (along with cross-posting some FB posts like today and yesterday). I will miss you on FB but I def understand about needing breaks. I love you!
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Have you tried Mahjong? I find it helps my brain a lot. Freecell is so addictive.
Good luck with everything and I hope 2017 treats you well. You deserve that.
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I love Mahjong! I have that and a few other games on my Kindle Fire. I don't use it as much for the brain stimulation as I do Freecell/Sudoku and the like, but yeah. It's wonderful. :)
Thank you! <3 <3 Things are coming together slowly. I'm good with that.
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This event happened right after *another* friend had a fight break out on HIS wall and I got caught in the crossfire. I decided FB is too negative for me at the moment and ditched it.
A dozen people reached out wanting to know if I was ok/what happened/OMG ARE YOU OK AUGH!
I was overwhelmed. I hid. I talked to a few people who reached out and after one particularly eloquent friend made the case that it's a tool for reaching people I care about and that it's something *I* should use, and not let it use me, I started reconsidering.
I am still considering, but I'll probably be back after a break. Seems like people like me or something. ;)
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I've decided that I do need to keep FB so that I can maintain contact with close friends and family, but I've managed to draw myself away from it by 'unfollowing' all my contacts. As soon as I did that, I seemed to break the chains that were tying me to it.
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Eventually, though, I'll go back. Just because it IS the fastest/easiest way to keep in touch with over 100 friends. -.-
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When you think about it, life went on perfectly well before Facebook existed. What would actually change if we weren't on it? We'd have to interact with people in real life! I don't honestly think anything terrible will happen if I greatly limit my presence on there, and the time I spend on it. I no longer want to be enslaved by it and I feel it's up to me to take control of the situation.
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