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[mezzopianoforte]

 "But if you’re losing weight to become more attractive, desirable or successful, or because of a non-specific “because health” reason, it’s important to know that you are actively contributing to narratives of fat hate and body policing

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[tardiscrash]

I'm sorry I think that is a horrible statement and thoroughly disagree with it. Everyone can do what they please with there body inside of the law. Bleaching your hair doesn't mean you hate brown hair or that other people are wrong to have it/want it, just that you want to be blonde.

No one should tell anyone else what to do with their body unless they are a Doctor.

[mezzopianoforte]

:( After a night's sleep I do kind of feel a bit pissed off that these people, who apparently are anti-body-policing, are in fact telling me what to do with mine

[notacrnflkgirl]

There's truth in it, but I think what matters more with regards to promoting body acceptance is how you act and what you say. And yes, if someone looks carefully at the discrepancy between the things you espouse and the way you treat yourself, they might see you as hypocritical, but everyone needs time to correct their self-issues. It's not immediate; it's OK not to be there yet. Don't feel bad for believing in body acceptance while still hating things about yourself. Again, it's about the ideas you promote: do you badmouth yourself aloud, where others could overhear, for eating? if you go out to eat with others, are you critical of what they order? do you moralize menu items aloud, calling them "bad," "good," "guilt-free," "sinful," etc.? are you critical of others' bodies aloud, instead of checking those thoughts within yourself? do you join in body-shaming jokes/talk or weight talk? If you're not doing those things, if you're not vocalizing eating shame or body shame, you're doing all you can to reduce those food and body pressures

[mezzopianoforte]

I am actually not doing any of those things :/ I used to, when I was 1) 15, b) horribly anorexic and c) a v. unpleasant, hungry person but I discovered the fat acceptance movement (ironically when I had a bmi of like, 14) and was so charmed and ashamed and just surprised, I think, that I did stop doing all that stuff, and I never ever do it anymore

I just feel bad because I absolutely, genuinely, passionately believe in body acceptance for everyone and to be told that I am actively contributing to people hating themselves more is difficult because I really don't judge people on their weight anymore, and surely it's just as much body policing telling someone they have to stay fat just because otherwise they're conforming to a particular aesthetic blah blah idk

thank you for this comment, though ♥ it's actually been v. helpful

[out_of_words24]

sometimes i feel the same way, too =(

[mezzopianoforte]

augh I'm sorry :( It's hard, isn't it

[x_los]

That's a surprisingly stark way to view it that didn't quite occurr to me, but I think it's probably quite right.

[mezzopianoforte]

Actually, I think I do enough to counter the damage I do by being eating disordered and hopefully most people I socialise with are educated enough to know that eating disorders aren't about being considered attractive anyway