Comments | merricatk: This is not your imagination.

merricatk

This is not your imagination.

Jun 22, 2010 12:56

I'm fascinated by how our brains work, particularly the difference between how they really work and how we think they work/how we expect them to work. (I was telling my cousin Patrick the other day how I thought they should amend the laws on hit-and-run accidents that involve only property damage. The urge to run when you've hit a tree or a ( Read more... )

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melodyclark June 22 2010, 19:44:12 UTC

That is all exactly why I constantly edit my blog. I rethink stuff I've posted. Emotional pain IS physical pain. It has a physical impact.

merricatk June 27 2010, 12:18:06 UTC

It's such a relief to really *know* that instead of just intuiting it. I find it comforting how many of the things I've always believed are really true. *g*

natashasolten June 22 2010, 23:04:20 UTC

This is the most compelling argument I've ever heard for treating bullying as a real crime with real victims. I don't care if someone cries because they are physically hurt or mentally hurt, they are still crying. Why is there any distinction? Hurt is hurt ( ... )

merricatk June 27 2010, 12:26:51 UTC

You are a very special, self-aware person. We all do awful things, but most of us never realize honestly feel them.

When I was in the 5th grade there were a couple of boys who picked on me all year. I'd just gotten braces, etc., etc.

Later on, when we were in high school (different ones), my parents and I used to go to his parents' restaurant, a cafeteria. He sometimes worked the serving line, and one night when we were there, he apologized for having been mean to me.

It had been years, and he was hardly the worst offender in my line, so forgiving him was easy.

And I'd be willing to bet that your schoolmate remembers your brave apology, and probably wishes she'd done something different.

natashasolten June 27 2010, 17:27:06 UTC

It is a good story to hear that guy apologized to you for teasing you in fifth grade. I hate to think that is a rare occurrence, but I'm afraid it might be since so many people do not want to take any responsibility for their actions even as grown ups ( ... )

mermaid88 October 3 2011, 22:51:48 UTC

how can people say that? ive heard stories about family pets being left behind while the family goes on vacation, and dying from lonliness (my sister's poodle) and my stepdad (but i call him dad) says him and my stepsibs went on vacation and left their dog at a friend's house. when they came back, the dog ignored them, rolled his eyes at them when they said a command ("sit boy!" dog: *yeah, right.*) and other stuff, and they had to give him away.
so, if scientists and stuff can tell that animals can feel rejection and lonelines, why should people be able to? i read on yahoo once that when people break up, and they say they're heartbroken, sometimes, its literally true.