Dear DIVA: One Does Not Simply Justify Biphobia

[mercury_pheonix]

Dear DIVA:
One Does Not Simply Justify Biphobia
Last month, DIVA Magazine, which advertises itself as one of the leading magazines for queer women, ran a feature in which they examined biphobia in the queer community. Seeing as this is the magazine which, not so long ago, listed Lady GaGa in an article entitled 'Top Ten Women We Wish Were Gay' ('...

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[saxgoddess25]

Hear hear! And very well said my dear. *big squishes*

I had a bit of this issue with my ex-girlfriend who actually said to me, "I'm afraid I'm going to lose you to a man." Um. Why? There was no reason at all except that she had a previous gf who cheated on her. I don't even know if it was with a man or a woman, but in any case, I'm not her. In the end it's all about people's fears leading them to act in a discriminatory fashion and their need to justify it all.

[odessie]

I have nothing intelligent to add, but *applauds*. Fabulous rant.

(...why the heck am I not friends with you on livejournal? Off to rectify.)

[angelkitty101]

The article, the subsequent letter and response, and the article in which someone blithely states that bisexuals are only attracted to two sexes gave me a slight case of The Rage.

Thank goodness they at least had Meg doing the article, she's a very good 'talking head' person and she's done loads on the Bisexuality Report.

The annoying thing with DIVA is that it is very biased towards women in relationships with women, often the B feels tacked on as an afterthought, which irritates (and is why I don't subscribe). Annoyingly, it's one of the better magazines out there though, so I do indulge!

Btw, have you been reading the series of bi visibility articles at Bitch Media? Here's the link, scroll down for the first one!

http://bitchmagazine.org/tag/visibility-1?page=1

[vikingwriter]

Being in the US (and mostly straight), I'm not familiar with the article or the magazine. But it sounds like some fucked up shit. Excellent response!

[ext_1152559]

Just came across this blog via the twitter BisexualFTW. Very much agree with this post, thank you for writing it, you articulated what I was feeling but was having issues finding the words to express. I'm a pansexual/bisexual genderqueer in a relationship with a pansexual cis male, but it's usually thought we are in a "straight" (if they think I'm a woman) or "gay" (if they think I'm a man) relationship when neither of us is monosexual. He is newly out as pansexual but I've been out for almost a decade, so I've been helping him through it. It's frustrating that both of us feel closeted even though we are both out and our relationship makes people assume we are monosexual.

Also, loving all the Doctor Who/Torchwood things on this blog! Specifically the angry Ianto at the end. :P

Best wishes,
Francis