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Sep 05, 2007 01:16


Why some people become overpossessive and overclingy

Fear of loss-- when someone starts to take centrestage of your life, you become horribly afraid that one day the stage will be abruptly left empty, spotlight trained on a vacant space in the centre with wooden planks gleaming off the violent white light, and nobody there. Where's the lead, where's ( Read more... )

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coqdorysme September 5 2007, 10:17:27 UTC
After the fruit is born from the flower there is only decay left.

It's possible, maybe, to simply live in the present. Playing it by ear would make everything a touch more flighty, but what is that in the face of a different priority? You'll never have to worry so much about keeping him if you just enjoy what you have at the moment. I don't think a person's heart can be forever kept but I think that it might just be possible to keep it for one short, short lifetime.

Where will all this lead? No one can tell, no one can do anything about it. Live when you will and if you love then love when you can.

(this is mildly depressing)

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melodily September 5 2007, 17:23:04 UTC
Haha MILDLY only, mildly!

That's the best we can do isn't it, just take things as they come? That doesn't stop you from wanting to prolong it, does it? Something that has been going on will cause you to develop expectations of consistency, perhaps, so much so that a change will almost always lead to disappointment. It's dread of whatever change that might come that causes people to be insecure and therefore not enjoy what they have at the present as much as they could.

One short, short lifetime is all people can hope for then; it's only how long that lifetime can last-- sort of like life isn't it. Fear of change, fear of death, they all amount to the same thing in the end.

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coqdorysme September 6 2007, 01:06:42 UTC
It is easier to condition the human nature than to fight against time. Perhaps it is merely our self-centredness that makes us fail to see any sort of bigger picture, but even then we still lose spontaneity and keep worrying in front.

We can promise things but promises are easily broken, and a blessing may simply turn into a curse.

I dontt think your last bit is right though--there're many that welcome their last moments because it signals the end of change for them, it's only one more last one and that's it.

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melodily September 6 2007, 03:32:28 UTC
that depends on whether they want it or not then-- it's the uncertainty that scares people isn't it, when and where and how? and despite all that desire for consistency death is too final for some to be comfortable with.

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