Ugh, general life rant/disgust and the occasional writers block. :(

[missmartian23]

*sigh* I hate doing these "vents" but, I don't know. I don't know where else TO empty this on so I guess it's here or continue to ferment until I explode into a sobbing, blubbering mess...

Comments

[tiinasaurus]

All right, someone else with an obvious pink/redish birthmark that people assume is a rash or burn or disfigurement of sorts. High five

[missmartian23]

Heeey, glad I'm not the only one who has to deal with this *High fives computer screen

[eleathyra]

I'm very sorry to hear this.... 10 hours a day, thats just crazy. I work 8 hours, and i still feel i never have the time for all the things i should do and want to do.

As for the rude customers, that must be really pull you down. I mostly deal with commercial customers, they're not as bad. But in busy times i have to help out wih the private ones, and even though its just on the phone, you get yelled at or insulted ( directly, called slut etc.) regularly, if you can't help. Usually when an order is delayed, makes some people furious, because they need it for a birthday exactly that day or so... Ordering a couple of days earlier seems not to be an option. This can really bring me down, BUT as mentioned, that are only the times when i have to help my colleagues out... I don't think i could deal with your job, i really feel with you.

Also, when being insulted, we are allowed to just hang up.

Unfortunately i don't really have any good tips for you... I'd just keep looking for a new job.

*hugs*

[missmartian23]

It's not consistently 10 hours every single day but it's enough and my day offs are scattered enough to keep me from having any kind of life.

And as to the customers... I'm secure enough in my self-confidence when if comes to my looks to not really take such comments personally.

It's just I have zero tolerance for stupidity and immature behavior all together and there are just certain people who really have no idea that what they say or do could actually have a negative effect on others.

They just don't think before they act or worse... they are the people who KNOW it's wrong but do it anyway... Horrible.

[legendaryair]

YOU ARE SO NOT ALONE, OMG. Working retail is seriously stressful, even in a GOOD work environment, let alone in one where you're not allowed to defend yourself at all! I just don't get why people (especially those with no social boundaries whatsoever) feel like they can ask personal, insulting questions and expect to receive polite, informative answers. I've had people walk up to me in front of my Korean-born (adopted) younger siblings and ask WHY we adopted them when we could've had PERFECTLY GOOD AMERICAN CHILDREN. Seriously. (What the heck, people?! You're perfect strangers, and you're freaking awful!! There is no amount of punctuation that I could use to express my horror and anger.) Luckily I wasn't working, so I told the lady asking where to shove it. In anatomically correct terms, yet ones with no cursing in any language that my younger siblings would be able to repeat. I am so, so sorry that you can't do that. You are a far better person than I am, and I refer to Tina's advice above for how to deal with nosy people at work

[missmartian23]

Cheeses Crust... They actually ask you why you adopted Korean kids?

In that case I would say, "You mean to ask me why I adopted perfectly good children with Asian features from another country instead of perfectly good children with equally Asian features here in America? Well, since America is a melting pot of different races all together, I just thought I'd add to the stew. So excuse me sir or ma'am but go fuck yourself. :D"

or something along those lines.

But anyway, it's none of their fucking business. >:<

Last fall was my year of creative power outage. Through a lot of unhappy events over the course of the year, I more or less lost my ability to create. :'( It go so bad I really considered to quit writing all together. Glad I didn't but, still, it was pretty bad.

[megam1nd]

Oh, gosh, I TOTALLY know how you feel. Trust me. And I can guarantee you one thing: it has nothing to do with where you live. I live in upstate New York, in the capital district, and I've worked the retail and customer service gigs more than I would ever want to admit. It didn't matter if I was working as a cashier in a local grocery store (yes, I've done that), retail sales in a store in our local mall (I've worked in many), or as a customer sales representative on the phone for our local cable company, people were just rude no matter what. If something doesn't go their way, if you can't bend far enough over backwards to kiss your own ass (and theirs), they showed NO RESTRAINT WHATSOEVER and would lash out and make your life and job a living hell. I have to tell you though, having worked the whole spectrum of these godawful jobs and dealt with all the same restrictions, it can be worse. A LOT worse. Working as a customer service rep on the phones for the cable company was the worst job I've ever had. Think of the misery you're having

[missmartian23]

I worked as a temp for Statefarm as a telemarketer last year. So, although it wasn't as long as your experience, I know how ya feel friend. :)

I'm going to keep looking and try to find another job that pays better. Maybe I'll get lucky and they'll open a library or Barnes 'n Noble where my last job used to be.

But I'm really holding out to see if I can be cross-trained into another/less people interaction part of the store once my probation period is up. And they guarantee a raise when my evals come in so... here's hoping.

Thanks for being an ear.

[megam1nd]

Any time, my friend! :) I wish you the very best of luck. *Hugs*

[alpha_centari27]

Everything listed above is why I would not survive for long working in retail

[missmartian23]

I'm sorry that our schedules haven't been mashing up lately. I miss our talks and I hope we can chat again soon when everything settles down again on both our ends.