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[mechers]

Shame is not a catalyst for change; it is a paralytic. Anyone who has ever carried extreme personal shame knows this. Shame doesn’t make you stronger, nor does it help you to grow, or to be healthy, or to be sane. It keeps you in one place, very, very still.

Comments

[icarus_after]

Have you seen or read any of Brene Brown's work?

[mechers]

I just googled, and no, I haven't. I find that sort of astonishing given how many books I've read on the topic. Is there any one you recommend?

[icarus_after]

I haven't read the books, but I started with her TED talk from the TED site.

[new2life]

My therapist when I did my 28 day rehab in 1990 said very clearly... shame will get you drunk again. Let go of the shame. I never forgot that and it has served me extremely well. I have been sober for 21 and some years and most of that is because I really took that to heart.

[mechers]

Well, shame has certainly fucked up the past eight or so years, that's for sure. And those are just the ones I'm counting.