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mat_defiler

Days of The Dead the last -- My Father

Nov 11, 2007 16:52

So, today is my father's birthday, and therefore it kind of ends my usual season of reflecting on the people in my life who have passed. And considering that i am most definitely my father's daughter in sometimes staggering ways, he is the person in my life whose death has impacted me the most, so today i write about him.

( the apple didn't fall too far from the tree )

death, mi, pearl river, grief, wig making, absent minded professor, childhood, canoing, father, homemade items, dreams

Comments 6

grrremlinski November 12 2007, 07:04:00 UTC

Thank you for writing these stories, Mat. They are wonderful and painful and give so much honor to the people who were once a part of your life. They also grant a boatload of perspective to the rest of us.

This one actually made me cry (no small feat) and I'm sorry that you're father is gone - for all the reasons that you've listed, and more. He sounded amazing. Much love to you.

mat_defiler November 12 2007, 17:42:01 UTC

hey, well thanks. i really enjoyed writing them actually. I'm looking forward to doing the ones i didn't get to next year. I like the idea of having the stories written down in an organized manner, and i think it's been really good for me to take the time to put all the memories in one place. I'm sorry that my father is gone too, for the most part, but also it has been a long time. And, also, what i didn't get as much into were the darker aspects of how my dad and life didn't often get along all that well. So, in some ways, i am relieved for him, even though i miss him and wish i'd had more time.

sadie_sabot November 12 2007, 18:57:16 UTC

thank you, it was good to read this. when i first met you your father's death was really raw for you.

katuah November 13 2007, 00:31:33 UTC

oh, i am at a loss for words. thanks for sharing that.

and i am also freaked to realize that your dad shares a bd with my sigother, given that you share one with me. ask not why, i just find it worth a moment of freakness.

mat_defiler November 13 2007, 08:00:19 UTC

yeah, no need to explain, i can definitely see why that would register on the freak meter. You see, maybe it's just part of the cosmic sign that you and i are destined to know eachother . . . . oops, uncontained gay woo!
Hey, my lj friend annetagonist just posted an entry that made me think of you, so you might check it out. it's her last post.

mat_defiler November 13 2007, 07:57:42 UTC

I believe we met on the one year anniversary of his death. so, yeah, whether i was admitting it freely or not (which i don't remember) i was pretty raw at that time! thanks for the reply.