I think there is a small amount of compromising that is okay. If in reality there are 30 vectors that I'm judging based on, and if the person is great on 20 vectors, good on 6 vectors, meh on 3 vectors, and kinda sucky on 1 vector, a combination like that is probably fine. No one is going to be a super star in every way.
But if there are 3 things that are deeply important to me, and if the person isn't good or excellent in all 3 ways... that's not exciting. Why would I want to spend my life with someone who I find disappointing? If a person doesn't line up with my core values, I walk. It's hard enough to make it work with someone awesome.
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But if there are 3 things that are deeply important to me, and if the person isn't good or excellent in all 3 ways... that's not exciting. Why would I want to spend my life with someone who I find disappointing? If a person doesn't line up with my core values, I walk. It's hard enough to make it work with someone awesome.
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