Hello again! You're not venting to a complete void, at least. :)
I hear that tends to happen when you're in your 30s. Maybe only if you let it, though. I seem to have let it. Then again, I've never been good at the maintenance part of relationships, especially with friends.Maintaining relationships with friends has definitely gotten harder over time, but I'd still say I have a dozen or so people I'm quite close to - who I've shared my worst secrets with, who I talk to regularly to share stresses and anxieties and good news and life updates. And a lot more who I visit and work on projects with and get drunk with and just sit around and do nothing with when I get the chance, though I don't get the chance too often
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Yaaay, glad LJ is not the void that it appeared at first glance! I think all my comic RSS feeds were knocking your recent entries out of the top fold, haha
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She does tend to handle our social relationships, as you put it, even the ones with my longtime friends. That's a really great perspective, so thanks for that! Now to fix it somehow. :)I bet your wife (Jaq, right?) could help you with this, if you tell her it's something you want to get better at. She could gradually pass the Relationship Management for your longtime friends back to you
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Very true, I'm sure Jaq will be happy to help. This sort of reminds me of a bullying-prevention study I read many years ago that involved helping shy preschoolers socialize by apprenticing them to one of their more extroverted peers. The extrovert's job was to show through example and through explicit instruction how to manage interpersonal relationships. Maybe it works for adults as well! :D
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I'm still on here occasionally, welcome back to the void! I agree that Facebook sucks - LJ felt much more personal, more like having actual conversations. Partly, there's just so much content generated on current social media that it becomes meaningless. At any rate, nice to hear from you again. : )
Whoa, good to hear from you again as well! That's awesome you're still checking in so many years later. Time to start an LJ revolution. It is clearly the superior medium! :D
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I hear that tends to happen when you're in your 30s. Maybe only if you let it, though. I seem to have let it. Then again, I've never been good at the maintenance part of relationships, especially with friends.Maintaining relationships with friends has definitely gotten harder over time, but I'd still say I have a dozen or so people I'm quite close to - who I've shared my worst secrets with, who I talk to regularly to share stresses and anxieties and good news and life updates. And a lot more who I visit and work on projects with and get drunk with and just sit around and do nothing with when I get the chance, though I don't get the chance too often ( ... )
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