My preferred love languages.
So "The Five Languages of Love" seems like a useful concept; I'm all in favor of anything that can help with impedance matching in communication. I haven't found any individual quiz I'm completely happy with, but I've taken two that were pretty good (http://www.greaterquest.com/LoveLanguages.asp and http://www.selectsmart.com/FREE/select.php?client=lovelanguages) and the results matched each other as well as my self-knowledge reasonably well.
Here are my preferences:
My top two preferred languages are touch and quality time. Anyone who knows me at all well will not be surprised by the former. I did find myself a bit surprised by the latter (I would have expected acts of service), but it makes sense in hindsight.
My next two preferences were acts of service and words of affirmation, just about even.
Dead last was gifts. This is not to say that I don't appreciate and cherish the gifts I get (some of you have gotten me some really awesome gifts and I love you all!) but if you really want to tell me you love me, it might be easier just to make a date with me. :-) Part of this may be related to my having so much trouble giving gifts myself. I feel like I never have any good ideas and angst over the gifts I do manage to give.
There does seem to be an unstated assumption that one's preference for giving affection is the same as for receiving it. I have my doubts.
I would love to see results from other people.
Here are my preferences:
My top two preferred languages are touch and quality time. Anyone who knows me at all well will not be surprised by the former. I did find myself a bit surprised by the latter (I would have expected acts of service), but it makes sense in hindsight.
My next two preferences were acts of service and words of affirmation, just about even.
Dead last was gifts. This is not to say that I don't appreciate and cherish the gifts I get (some of you have gotten me some really awesome gifts and I love you all!) but if you really want to tell me you love me, it might be easier just to make a date with me. :-) Part of this may be related to my having so much trouble giving gifts myself. I feel like I never have any good ideas and angst over the gifts I do manage to give.
There does seem to be an unstated assumption that one's preference for giving affection is the same as for receiving it. I have my doubts.
I would love to see results from other people.