Rejection

[margaretc]

I'm reading this article about rejection in Psychology Today that seems apropos to several of the current discussions I see going on in several of my societies right now.

If you read this and don't go 'hey, yeah' (or whatever your equivalent phrase is), please open up a dialogue about why this article doesn't resonate at all with you.

Comments

[reasdream]

Most of the article reads very true for me, except in one aspect. When I experience/perceive rejection, my impulse is not to blame or be angry at the other person, but to try and figure out what I did wrong. I suppose my inner logic states that if people are going to abandon you always, why be angry when they get around to doing it?

Probably just as self-destructive for my emotional health, tho

[pallasathene82]

I think it's one of those things that can take different aspects: either you turn your rejection outward on other people or inwards to yourself.

[pallasathene82]

This helped to explain more than anything why I was so heartbroken when a friend recently rejected me.

Also I was pretty sure until a couple of months ago that people in our canton didn't really like me that much.

[margaretc]

I think that it's hard to 'get' initially - we all tend to a) fear rejection ourselves, b) want to let shy people join in at their own pace and not scare them off, and c) we like pretty much everyone, unless you step on kittens and kick Nate's trains. But *I* like you lots, you're thoughtful and fun (that came out 'thoughtfun' first) and you have an excellent smile. I can't speak for anyone else, except maybe ymasen, who has the same gigantic rejection issues that you and I do.