Turing!Len gets email

May 01, 2013 18:50

So here's a sort of goofy thing.

A week or two after Len died, I forget exactly, all of a sudden one day emails addressed to him started showing up in my inbox, most of them listservs and announcements and things like that. It was a bit jarring and quite surreal; then again, basically everything about that time had a "you are living in a Jeunet Read more... )

a little light reading, improvise adapt and overcome

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zzzsleepyfoxzzz May 2 2013, 03:20:29 UTC
"I feel there's something meaningless but honorable about Google faithfully dispatching an extra copy of each message in his name, into perpetuity, like a priest saying Masses for the soul of someone who donated to their church2, except the priest has been replaced by a very small shell script."

I really like this line. (This is @unquietpirate, btw.)

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anaisdjuna May 2 2013, 03:53:21 UTC
I get this. I get why. I get an inkling of how you must have felt.

My heart goes out to you in so many ways, for so many reasons. One of which is the courage it took to enter the space where you wrote this.

Much gentleness from my heart to yours.

Adj.

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maradydd May 2 2013, 04:27:52 UTC
We choose to do these things not because they are easy, but because they are hard.

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anaisdjuna May 2 2013, 19:38:39 UTC
Not everyone does that. I'm dealing with someone in my life right now who goes out of his way to avoid what's hard. Brave people choose to do what's hard. Truth seekers and those with the courage, integrity and vision to live authentically choose to do what's hard.

A quote from a tv show has been helping me difficult choices lately, "If you want to feel better, take a pill. If you want to get it right, face the truth".

More gentleness and esteem,

Adj.

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aliothsan May 2 2013, 04:38:04 UTC
This is so very poignantly written... *sniff*

Also, here's a short story by a friend of mine, on a vaguely similar theme: http://365tomorrows.com/07/13/ave-atque-vale/

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coyote_in_fog May 2 2013, 07:30:37 UTC
"2 He was a lapsed Catholic; I think he would have appreciated that simile."

Ha, yes, I think so.

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fanlain May 2 2013, 18:04:17 UTC
When my sister passed away, I deleted her accounts. It was hard to do, and I wasn't even sure that it was right. I figured since she tended to delete every email after she read it, she probably wouldn't want the account to stick around. We knew her estranged husband wasn't even allowing her the freedom of her own inbox; his control issues were so strong that she had almost no husband-free space to live within. So I deleted everything to give her that space in death and to sever her from him completely and force him to leave her alone now that she is gone. Because he had called her voicemail at work and left her a voicemail even though he knew she was dead. And he was sending her emails too. I hadn't thought of anything else really but giving her this space. Her space. We're pretty sure he hasn't bothered to visit her grave, and he didn't care about the funeral. It took hard negotiations with the funeral director to get him to waive his rights and allow our family to bury her properly. He didn't care. He just wanted to control her ( ... )

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