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Jan 27, 2004 11:06

I've been looking back at some old lj entries, and it's interesting. I've changed so much since I first started this journal (4.5 years ago) in so many ways, most of which are virtually impossible for me to define ( Read more... )

everyday stuff, navel gazing

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rapta January 27 2004, 13:40:44 UTC

know what you mean. I've been looking at what I was like a few years ago myself.

Authors often discribe the teenage years as confusing, etc and while I didn't agree with them when I was a teenager, I do now that I'm looking back.

Most people seem to be stablizing. I wonder how much of it comes from getting older, getting away from psychotic parents, and how much is from being forced to be independant.

mao4269 January 27 2004, 15:14:27 UTC

I'd guess that most of the stabilization (which is probably exaggerated by livejournal given that it tends to be a place to rant) comes from getting older given that it happens in people who don't have psychotic parents and that I, at least, don't feel much more independent now than junior or senior year of highschool.

It would be interesting to plot emotional growth over time (similar to graphs of physical growth over time). Where do you think your sharpest slope would occur? I don't know if mine has ended yet -- do you think that yours has? What does that even mean? Do people "stagnate" after a certain point? The overabundance of self-help books would suggest otherwise...

rapta January 28 2004, 00:01:38 UTC

Interesting idea. It would take some work to figure out my maturation graph/slope etc, but I could probably figure it out with a little work.

I've grown a lot over the past couple of years. And yes, I'd say that it IS possible to stagnate - but I don't think that it happens at a set point. I would definitely say that people have periods of stagnation, and it's even possible to have periods of regression.

One thing that would be hard to graph would be what happens when you go through something hard or tramatic - because at the time, you can be a pathetic ball of angst/helplessness but when it's over, you are much stronger. It might be tricky to graph.

Self help books are geared towards people who want to improve. There are plenty of people who are too stubborn to use them (my father comes to mind) and there are others who are too lazy.