Love and Compatibility.

[mangoboi]

You can love someone unconditionally.

If the love is so strong, can it overcome incompatibility?

Or incompatibility does not exist when two person are in love?

Or do you feel that love alone is not enough and two people in love can be incompatible and will not work no matter?

Or does the love not exist when two are totally incompatible, perhaps ceasing

Comments

[seaweeds]

hmmmm .... I think yes, love can overcome incompatibility - but with love so fragile at times, incompatibility is a very real strain on the relationship. This is where open dialogue needs to be in place between the couple and expectation management of what both can do and accommodate needs to be done realistically, honestly and very often.

It can be tiring and tiresome for many couples - and some may even need third party assistance (eg: counsellor, therapist, common friend mediator etc).

So, "love" on its own will be insufficient for this - the couple needs energy, honesty, forebearance, understanding, co-operation, sacrifice and sheer goodwill towards the union to want to stay together.

[mangoboi]

So love can conquer all but at this time n age it's insufficient

[seaweeds]

haha .. dun be so hard on this generation - many generations before, and many generations after will face this eternal issue also. The difference is the availability of options to the individuals involved, some have fewer options, some have none, some have sooooo many options until jialat .. loll

[mangoboi]

No la. I'm just trying to deduce what you said. Cos I'm still trying to believe love can conquer all but it seems so difficult.

[xiaogou]

you can love someone unconditionally, but is the love reciprocated unconditionally as well?

[mangoboi]

Should love be about thinking of what you get in return?

Truthfully speaking I don't feel like I'm as important to him and him to me. Sometimes I feel taken for granted and not as appreciated.

[xiaogou]

oh I wasn't thinking about that actually. I was just saying, if one person loves the other unconditionally, but it is not reciprocated, then wouldn't that be incompatible in a sense too?

[mangoboi]

Lol. I'm more talking about character wise in the incompatible part. But it sort of make sense I guess