Friendship is sacred. Never forget it.

[mandy_croyance]

So Jen (pluginxbaby) made this fabulous post about drama in the fandom really sucking rather hard recently and I can't help but agree. And I know this is a little of the pot calling the kettle black because I've never been one to keep my opinions close to my chest, but I do think it's time for all of us to be more respectful of each other. Me included

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[sinuous_curve]

Really, one of the things I admire about you is that you share your opinion honestly, without truncating or censoring yourself. I find myself being silent quite often because I'm afraid of incurring the wrath of fandom or creating unintended backlash. I wish I could be as forthright as you.

[mandy_croyance]

Well, I've always thought if there was one place you could truly be honest it should be in the relatively anonymity of the internet. Why should you hide what you really think or who you really are in a place where people can be anything and change that whenever they want?

To be honest, though, I'm pretty much like this in real life too: too opinionated for my own good.

Still, as a fandom we're a community and that means we owe certain obligations to each other. We all have a stake in this thing, together. And I would hate to see our community flooded with cliques and bad blood - there's enough of that already.

So. Yes. I can be a little bit more tactful. I don't mind too much.

[sinuous_curve]

True, but the only downside to that is people I guess use that same anonymity to be unnecessarily cruel. Fortunately, in fandom at least, it's not very many people, but even one or two is enough to make a whole lot of people very unhappy.

*laughs*

What's funny is that I'm much more opinionated in real life. It's easier for me to explain what I think face to face than do it with words. :)

Amen. I guess I just never thought of as you being not tactful. :D

In any case, I'm sticking around. Your posts tend to make me think, which is always a good thing.

[flash_indie]

It is hard to be tactful when trying to show where you stand, even harder when trying to justify yourself in the face of difficult people, harder again when you're a difficult person yourself. (I'm sort of vulnerable to this).

I don't think you're an evil super-bitch, but hey, I've sort of been out of commission for a few months, joys of highschool, and have hence missed most of the fandom wank and to be honest, I have no intention of becoming involved. I don't know what's happened with you or your opinions (fill me in! I'm confused!), but I in no way think you're a bad person.

Anywho, guess who graduated last week! Me! And some 70,000 kids throughout Brisbane, but, whatever. I got my highschool certificate! I'm sitting on two VHA's and four HA's and dude, I am stoked! (because that's really, really good). I got back from schoolies like, four hours ago and just, wow, weird. Back in the real world, so, hi, let's catch up

[mandy_croyance]

I don't think I'm an evil super-bitch either, but I know that I'm not absolutely beloved either and hey, that's OK. I'm not trying to please everyone. At the same time, I'm not about to continue inflicting myself on people who don't like me.

I would hope, however, that even if I disagree with a person on something, they might still find me to be a sweet and lovable girl. I really would hope.

(If you really want to know about all of the wank, IM or email me. I'm not going to dredge it all back up here.)

CONGRATULATIONS ON GRADUATING! I'm glad you're doing well, bb. Hopefully now that you're done high school you might be able to spent a little more time in the fandom, yes? *puppy eyes*

[happythree]

BYE THEN

lol <3

[mandy_croyance]

D:

*cries*

[mandy_croyance]

I try to keep most of the drama off my own journal. I try not to make posts that would perpetuate those those sorts of conflicts. The only reason I reply to other people's posts/comments because I really can't help myself when someone expresses an opinion I disagree with but try to show them the other side of the story.

And sometimes I can be a little brisk about it, unfortunately *frowns*

But yeah. Drama sucks something awful.

[sky_light_kid]

Hi so, you may or may not remember me--I commented on your post on Heteronormativity and the gay meta. (I wish I could say I remember that off the top of my head, but i actually had to go back on copy the title) I'm just commenting to say i friended you because I have kind of lurked around your journal for a while in that way that people do when they find someone so awesome they are afraid to make contact. (Or maybe it's just me) You always intimidated me a bit because you had opinions and weren't afraid to share them, but they were pretty cool opinions so I always came back looking for more. But now you say you don' mind people friending you so yeah, here I am.

Hi, my name is Kelsey and I really hope we can be friends.

p.s. what is this drama you speak of?

[mandy_croyance]

Hi!

That meta got kind of intense. I'm still reading through the comments people made. I regret not being about to reply to more of them but someone posted it to meta_fandom and it totally ballooned out of my control, lol.

And yeah, I don't usually let myself be intimidated by anyone when it comes to sharing my opinions but I love Jen and whatever she says, I do. Alright, I'm kidding (am I?) but she makes a good point about being more tactful with one's comments and not being an undue agitator.

(The drama I speak of is mostly half-killed off shipping war that practically everyone acknowledged was dumb as shit. But drama lives on in all sorts of ridiculous ways *sigh*)

Anyhow it's awesome to meet you, Kelsey, and we can most definitely be friends.

[sky_light_kid]

Hi so, I have this tendency to read comments and then put off replying until I have time to do it properly. But then, I forget I have a comment to reply to and enough time goes by that I look like i'm ignoring people... And I just wanted to say that I wasn't.

There was a shipping war? Hmm, glad I missed it. (Although I must say, I vote Katie Kay/Ryan, she could give him belly dancing lessons!)