Hahaha, I know exactly what you're going through. I got my first bill this week as "Mrs. Christina Page" and was all "OH MAN OH MAN-- eh, I'll get used to it." I am going with Allen as my middle, if only because I hate 'Lauren' a whole bunch. I am not nor have I ever identified with the name 'Lauren.' Like you, I've been trying out new sigs, and I've settled on "C.A. Page." My sig as it stands is "C A(scribble)" so it's not much of a change.
Yeah. Related to Dave. That's me.madmoisellestarAugust 14 2009, 19:14:09 UTC
I guess I haven't been blogging about reasons. It's been in my head so much I assumed it had leaked out somewhere.
It's about being a family. Being identifiable to other people as belonging together. It's about simplicity and practicality - for getting bills paid and forms signed and +1s assumed and all that mundane stuff. It's about kids and eventually having to deal with school bureaucracy.
That's what it really drives home for me: I am going to have children. Honestly that's the biggest reason. I want that family unit to all share a name. If we weren't planning to have kids, I don't know if I would make the same choice. Might. Might not.
It's a totally personal decision, I don't claim any kind of universality to my reasoning.
You know -- the super casualness with which I approached this is kind of surprising. I used to be one of those "I should not have to take a man's name" type of people, but low and behold it was because I was with the wrong person ... not because I really felt like that. I mean, I used to be anti-marriage too -- funny how that changes when you are finally with the one you're supposed to marry
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we really do turn into our mothersmadmoisellestarAugust 14 2009, 20:20:31 UTC
I grew up with divorced parents with the same name. Mom kept dad's name because it was important to her that we had the same name. It made a big impression on me.
Re: we really do turn into our mothersfindingjulietAugust 14 2009, 20:31:34 UTC
That's really cool that your mom did that.
I, on the other hand, was really freaked when people accidentally called my mom Mrs. Hallmark. My parents divorced before I was ever aware they were married and my mom remarried when I was 2 1/2 (in fact mom just reminded me that she and Gil are about to mark their 30th wedding anniversary in October ... wow) so she was always Mrs. Mills to me.
You know that dude I dated in high school, Jordan? He and his older brother had the same last name, his step dad had a different one, his little brother had a different name and so did his mother. She'd been married so many times that she just made up some random last name and decided to legally change it.
They had a hard time renting movies. Nobody ever knew what name the accounts were under.
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It's about being a family. Being identifiable to other people as belonging together. It's about simplicity and practicality - for getting bills paid and forms signed and +1s assumed and all that mundane stuff. It's about kids and eventually having to deal with school bureaucracy.
That's what it really drives home for me: I am going to have children. Honestly that's the biggest reason. I want that family unit to all share a name. If we weren't planning to have kids, I don't know if I would make the same choice. Might. Might not.
It's a totally personal decision, I don't claim any kind of universality to my reasoning.
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I, on the other hand, was really freaked when people accidentally called my mom Mrs. Hallmark. My parents divorced before I was ever aware they were married and my mom remarried when I was 2 1/2 (in fact mom just reminded me that she and Gil are about to mark their 30th wedding anniversary in October ... wow) so she was always Mrs. Mills to me.
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They had a hard time renting movies. Nobody ever knew what name the accounts were under.
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