Comments | madmoisellestar: Sometimes more is actually more (to a point)

madmoisellestar

Sometimes more is actually more (to a point)

May 17, 2009 17:48

“You know, all you really need is you and him and the minister, everything else is a bonus.”

( I have been hearing this a lot in the last week, and I’m starting to be a little miffed by it. There is value there, it’s true, but I think it misses the point. )

this crazy modern world, trying to stay sane, being female, wedding

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torberg May 17 2009, 22:30:04 UTC

*shrug* I know you meant nothing negative. And I'm sorry if it seemed I was saying everything else is frivolous. Whilst I can't speak for others, my intent was more along the lines of:

"Something (possibly even more than one thing) will go wrong. Or be forgotten. Or be missed. Or be unavailable. As long as you have those five items covered the two of you will be married at the end of the day. Then you can party as much or as little as you wish. Everything that goes right will most likely overshadow the little hiccups that may occur."

Hell, when icewolf010 and I got married it was a fair bit more than the key five. And there were some...difficulties that day. Small example: we almost didn't have our song as the DJ couldn't find the disc. Friends tracked down a nearby music store that was still open and he was able to pick up another copy. Good example: everyone had a lot of fun.

kylecassidy May 18 2009, 00:54:28 UTC

In PA because it was founded by Quakers, who had no ministers, you just need your S.O. and two witnesses. you can marry yourselves. which is the way i think it ought to be.

madmoisellestar May 18 2009, 02:23:23 UTC

Neat! I did not know.

madmoisellestar May 18 2009, 13:23:02 UTC

I see what you did there. Mazel Tov.

dwolfe May 18 2009, 02:17:08 UTC

Hey, some times I flip out about napkin colors and I'm neither a woman nor planning a wedding. So clearly that stereotype is pretty lame.

AHHHHHHH!!!!! RED NAPKINS!!!!!

We want to bring our friends and family together

Dear god, have you met our families?

madmoisellestar May 18 2009, 02:23:09 UTC

You have a number of points here.

ciretose May 19 2009, 21:36:30 UTC

I have asked several times if I have to invite my family...

madmoisellestar May 20 2009, 01:18:46 UTC

She's met them, right? And she keeps saying yes?

(kidding. I've never met them, I don't know.)

_freyja_ May 18 2009, 20:13:36 UTC

I am so happy that you're taking the nontraditional route too :-) Good for you both for making it your own!!! I salute you!

I ran into a lot of the "it's the brides day" bullshit too when I was planning. I don't understand how people can look over the fact that a wedding is a union, not an overblown sweet 16 party. Tell people to suck it.

(also, do you know where in CT you're going to get married? You're more than welcome to visit/stay with us if you have the time and are interested)

ernmissprism May 18 2009, 20:32:11 UTC

First, I'm so proud of you for choosing the Conn. route. I have told JT that I won't even consider marrying him until everyone has that right. But you've got a good solution.

Second, the whole "it's your day" thing means just that. You make the rules, and that's the only "right" way to do it. And screw the wedding-industrial complex and its overbearing emissaries! Do what makes you both happy!

madmoisellestar May 19 2009, 16:14:47 UTC

Thanks.