I remember reading some of those things at the time. Also that he said that once he had to do it for the part he realized what a pain in the butt it is to keep legs and pits shaved, and that women shouldn't feel they have to do that.
Since I've never fit into what our culture generally defines as attractive for a woman, I could immediately identify with what he was saying about being invisible. It was worse before I lost weight. Sometimes it made me angry, and sometimes it still does.
I haven't been in Applebees for years, for instance, because the last time I went in to pick up a carry out the bar tender behaved as if he couldn't see me. I'm no shrinking violet, but I couldn't get his attention at all. I told myself that it was because they were busy, but then some cute shapely young blond bounced in there and he dropped everything to help her. Needless to say I asked for a manager and the food was comped, but that didn't really make up for the insulting treatment.
part of me was thinking "That's nice, Dustin. But you could take it off at the end of the day."
This reminds me of all those "let's put pretty skinny girls in fat suits and be all shocked when society is so mean to them!" Man, I hate that crap. [/rant over]
Heh, sort of like Gwyneth and Tyra putting on fat suits, eh? Oh, it's soooo unfair *sniffle*
I still have huge issues and get really REALLY angry with the whole invisible woman stuff...people who aren't long-term acquaintances sometimes put their foot in it by making judgmental remarks to me, then RAR. Insanity, I can has.
But...they still don't *understand* that it will never matter, I will still be 250# and invisible on both fronts.
Hopefully the experience made Dustin a kinder and more understanding person rather than just another person full of false pity.
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Interesting. What is also scary is 25 years?? ye gods where has the time gone?
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That's just scary!
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Since I've never fit into what our culture generally defines as attractive for a woman, I could immediately identify with what he was saying about being invisible. It was worse before I lost weight. Sometimes it made me angry, and sometimes it still does.
I haven't been in Applebees for years, for instance, because the last time I went in to pick up a carry out the bar tender behaved as if he couldn't see me. I'm no shrinking violet, but I couldn't get his attention at all. I told myself that it was because they were busy, but then some cute shapely young blond bounced in there and he dropped everything to help her. Needless to say I asked for a manager and the food was comped, but that didn't really make up for the insulting treatment.
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you could take it off at the end of the day."
This reminds me of all those "let's put pretty skinny girls in fat suits and be all shocked when society is so mean to them!" Man, I hate that crap. [/rant over]
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I still have huge issues and get really REALLY angry with the whole invisible woman stuff...people who aren't long-term acquaintances sometimes put their foot in it by making judgmental remarks to me, then RAR. Insanity, I can has.
But...they still don't *understand* that it will never matter, I will still be 250# and invisible on both fronts.
Hopefully the experience made Dustin a kinder and more understanding person rather than just another person full of false pity.
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he feels sympathetic for ugly woman, but, MAN, be with than is far too terrible... *right*
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