Comments | lysana: I fail at dating

lysana

I fail at dating

Sep 09, 2008 15:13

Seems someone in the wild and woolly world thinks that bi women should date couples so we can position ourselves better for our One True Love when s/he comes along. I came to realize while discussing this with my two bi female sweeties that all three of us are doing it wrong. I'm dating three couples (blackfyr and pusifoot, P and tenacious_snail, and Snail and the_ogre. Snail's dating ( Read more... )

link, polyamory, silly

Comments 6

emberleo September 9 2008, 22:50:23 UTC

...

So. Confused.

--Ember--

lysana September 10 2008, 20:21:53 UTC

Where does the confusion start? I'd rather not guess and risk getting sidetracked.

sogwife September 9 2008, 23:25:40 UTC

Blink, blink.

So, the single girl doesn't have to support the couple emotionally, just have sex with them? That's it, I'm becoming single! Then I won't have to work at my relationships, either!

nancyblue September 10 2008, 14:48:30 UTC

I never knew!! I think I need to print this into a flyer to use to convince hot bi chicks to shag me and my husband!!

*thinksthinks*

Oh, wait. That might be demeaning. And we'd have to keep her sweet with lingerie all the time. Nevermind.

That is an awesome icon, BTW.

Seriously... jorjedatoy October 3 2008, 08:54:02 UTC

Crap, I had this all typed out and lost it...

Have you ever broken up with a person when you were dating their partner, too? I was married for 10+ years when we gained a wife (yes, WE). Our families merged and we each dated each other separately from the family. After several years together, I moved out and have since been divorced. That is the shortened version, of course. The thing is, I handled things very poorly where my wife was concerned. I didn't know how to leave him and maintain anything with her.

I'm looking to discuss my situation with a successful poly person so I can maybe learn something from all this. All the locals that attempt poly around here are pretty loco.

I hope you don't mind me posting this comment here.

Re: Seriously... lysana October 3 2008, 20:31:55 UTC

Well, the woman I stopped dating most recently is also dating my boyfriend and girlfriend. We had an extremely amicable parting because we both saw the problems inherent in our relationship (whether we saw them the same way is one for the fly on the wall to judge). Everyone still gets along fine, and I'm on the ex's invite list for a sex party. So much depends on how the relationships were entered into and handled, and how deep they got. Some ties are too interwoven to break one without breaking the others.