Comments | louie_ludwig: ethical metaphor/ethical flirtation

louie_ludwig

ethical metaphor/ethical flirtation

Feb 17, 2009 12:20

Distraction is an old friend of mine. Unfortunately, my brain isn't easily torn from the pain of the day, so distraction has to be worthwhile on its own, engaging, even Important. Here's an attempt ( Read more... )

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cixous February 17 2009, 17:51:35 UTC

1. "Hit Me With Your Best Shot" by Pat Benatar. That is all.
2. Not weird that he's a fan. I find long-distance flirtation unsatisfying, but it can be fun when that is really all you can handle.

functionary February 17 2009, 19:29:54 UTC

I think flirting with fans is a good reason to be *in* a band, so clearly I'm okay with this. Especially if it's a hot fan. I've been trying to convince people of the wisdom of using a band to pick up people who are not *in* the same band for years now. Go forth and be flirtatious!

amillionandone February 17 2009, 20:39:35 UTC

As for number 1, of course, context is everything. But the phrase has definite James Brown overtones (his trombonist Fred Wesley even titled his memoir after the phrase - http://www.amazon.com/Hit-Me-Fred-Recollections-Sideman/dp/0822329093 - so I think there's long-established precedent there.
And 2 - I will say that several friends of mine started out as fans of the band I was playing in at the time, and the friendship stayed even after the band disappeared. So bridging the gap between "fan" and actual person involved in your life is something that happens occasionally and is not something to be particularly feared. If *all* of the people you interact with are fans, then there's possibly a problem.

constintina February 17 2009, 22:30:19 UTC

1. You do realize the irony of using James Brown as an example here, right?

2. No on is talking friendship, they are talking flirtation. I notice you didn't discuss the fan you dated here.

louie_ludwig February 18 2009, 17:05:27 UTC

Touché.

product_junkie February 17 2009, 20:58:54 UTC

I don't see anything weird about #2.

If I were in a band like yours, my main two objectives would be:

I. Free Palestine!
II. get @zz

louie_ludwig February 18 2009, 17:05:58 UTC

that is awesome. but. i'm not you.

constintina February 17 2009, 22:33:16 UTC

1. "hit me" is probably fine.
2. It's just weird to you cuz you've never had the option to do this without more serious ethical conflicts because you were always dating people IN your band. So. (sing it) A whole new world...just use it don't abuse it and all is FINE. To work off of another comment though, if you find yourself exclusively flirting with fans, something may be very wrong.

louie_ludwig February 18 2009, 17:04:52 UTC

so to clarify, the 'hit me' in question *is* about violence, not a playful "hey temim! take that solo! hit me!" um. yeah.