Thank you for writing that. I like when I come a little closer to understanding other people, especially my friends. I'm also really glad you feel like you're improving. :) I hope writing this out was helpful for you. I ♥ you (and Kat too)!
Thank you for sharing this. My father was the one on me about weight at a young age, he and his mother. She used to try to deprive me of food and when that didn't work she would just tell me I didn't "need" any more. My father called me a fat pig, starting from the age of 8. I fought back, because I knew I was healthy and I liked my size and shape. I wasn't fat, I was curvy amd slightly heavy. Now I'm considered obese by the gov't assholes who decide what normal is and it's aggravating. I have a child of my own now, and I'm determined to make him healthy, but not skinny. Both my husband and I are large and healthy, so my child is predetermined to be a chubby child. I'm ok with that, as long as he eats healthy. He gets cookies sometimes, not often.. no candy, no excess sugar. He will ask for a piece of fruit or yogurt for snack before he will ask for junk, and I think I'm pretty proud of him for that. In an age where the 2 y/o's around me are drinking soda and energy drinks * yes, I have seen this with my own eyes* it's important for
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Thanks for sharing your story with me too! I'm so glad that you stood up for yourself and didn't let them stomp you down, though I'm sure it couldn't have been easy, and I'm sure it still hurt. And I'm also glad you're a good parent - your son is very lucky. I've seen kids eating the most ridiculous things! Why do people think they can start their kids out eating so bad and just worry about fixing it later? *sigh* Anyway, thanks for responding!
Okay, first of all, I think you're beautiful, Megs. I really, truly do. Not anorexic movie star "pretty", but that's so narrow a definition. So you really shouldn't feel so bad about your appearance....we all do, but you have no more reason than the rest of us. ;)
Secondly, I think that's really interesting. Like Jessica said, it's cool to see things from a different point of view. Not that I ever thought you were at fault or anything, but now it makes more sense. Plus, it's kinda like when it all comes down to it, we all have flaws, usually they started bc of something when we were kids, and that's kinda like our "cross to bear". I know I have stuff like that, for sure, it just manifested itself differently.
And thanks for sharing--that took a LOT of courage, I'm sure. Go you! :)
I suppose the one good thing about growing up is you get to look back on your life and say "Huh, I guess that's why I do that" etc. Even just the smallest things can have such an impact. Anyway, thanks for the response!
I too had many of the same things that you did... And I am just addressing them now. I have a feeling that I have been over-eating to cover up pain... In fact I know I have, so I have a feeling this journey is going to suck, but I hope it will be worth it in the end.
you do not know me (this is natasha) but i got here from kat's journal...
thank you so much for writing this. i, too, have had problems involving food since i was about 13, and though mine were of a different nature, the guilt and self-esteem issues associated with food is very similar to what you're describing. as i've gotten older, i've realized that first and foremost, our bodies are OUR OWN, and nobody else's, and their primary function is to serve US. its to make us happy, healthy, and content. and other people should have no claim over how we look, as long we find that our bodies serve their function well.
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Thank you for writing that. I like when I come a little closer to understanding other people, especially my friends. I'm also really glad you feel like you're improving. :) I hope writing this out was helpful for you. I ♥ you (and Kat too)!
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We *heart* you too!
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Secondly, I think that's really interesting. Like Jessica said, it's cool to see things from a different point of view. Not that I ever thought you were at fault or anything, but now it makes more sense. Plus, it's kinda like when it all comes down to it, we all have flaws, usually they started bc of something when we were kids, and that's kinda like our "cross to bear". I know I have stuff like that, for sure, it just manifested itself differently.
And thanks for sharing--that took a LOT of courage, I'm sure. Go you! :)
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I suppose the one good thing about growing up is you get to look back on your life and say "Huh, I guess that's why I do that" etc. Even just the smallest things can have such an impact. Anyway, thanks for the response!
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you do not know me (this is natasha) but i got here from kat's journal...
thank you so much for writing this. i, too, have had problems involving food since i was about 13, and though mine were of a different nature, the guilt and self-esteem issues associated with food is very similar to what you're describing. as i've gotten older, i've realized that first and foremost, our bodies are OUR OWN, and nobody else's, and their primary function is to serve US. its to make us happy, healthy, and content. and other people should have no claim over how we look, as long we find that our bodies serve their function well.
so thank you, once again.
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Thanks for responding!
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