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[loonylupinlover]

So. If you read me you may have seen gavluvsga in my journal before. Especially since he comments on almost every entry. He's a decent enough guy, and I've known him for six years, ever since I first got into fandom. Well, Gavin's generally nice enough... but not the most interesting of people. Which, you know, isn't the worst fault a person can have

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[madlindz]

It sounds like this Gavin fellow did overreact quite a bit. Friends give each other constructive criticism right? Hopefully he sees this and he'll see how silly it all is. I will be staying tuned to see how it turns out, I'm very curious.

P.S. I just got your message today because I spent Sat night at my folks for Dad's Day and left my phone at the apartment. Sorry I missed ya :( Maybe we can get together some time next week.

[loonylupinlover]

He's really hypersensitive to what people have to say, and if you say anything less than glaringly positive he assumes you hate him. I've had to yell at him a few times for taking something I've said completely the wrong way... sigh. I never said anything about his fanfic before in all the years I've known him because I knew it would hurt his feelings... but this time he asked for feedback and I decided to actually be truthful for once. And I guess he couldn't take it.

My guess is that he won't respond to me at all, and will try to pretend it never happened.

Aw, it's okay. I ended up just chilling with my mom. When's the next time you're free?

[sae]

I sympathize with him a little because it's easy to get emotional about a good critique. No matter how helpful the crit, it can often be difficult to hear, you know? I think you have to practice not getting defensive and learn how to listen to someone else's feedback before you can really handle them.

HOWEVER.

There is a huge difference between being a little defensive and having an overblown emotional freakout. I mean, you're his friend and you gave a very solid critique (can I call on you for a writing crit sometime?). You pointed out strengths and you pointed out specific ways he could improve... and I'm really sorry that it was so intense that he decided to toss aside your friendship over it. That's supremely lame.

[loonylupinlover]

I totally understand that -- there's always a tiny little sting when you hear something about your creative thing that just doesn't work. And sometimes the sting is worse than other times, especially when you aren't used to it. But you have to get used to it, is the thing. Yeah, it hurt when people didn't like EVERYTHING about my stories... but I got over it after the initial "Ow!" and then said, "Maybe they have a point."

Well, he's apologized now. But I'm not sure that he got the letter I wrote him... and he needs to have that before he can make an informed apology. Because it was pretty freaking harsh of me, lol.

[velvetgunpowder]

I hate when people act like they want feedback and then can't handle it. Especially when they are in need of it. MySpace drives me insane with all of the spelling errors left and right.