Goddess, loki. *writes you a story to cheer you up* Argh, people who DON'T WANT TO UNDERSTAND.
Look. I know family can be extremely stupid, but sometimes you have to accept that no matter what you do you can't convice everyone. I have a friend who thinks being gay is a birth defect - an illness. When I told her she was wrong, she told me to look in nature. There's no such thing as gay animals, right? I corrected her. I could go on and on (because it went on and on and on, but the point is that in the end I gave up. She wouldn't allow her mind to open that little bit to really listen to what I was saying. When I told her I was bisexual she basically went, "Well, you're defected then." She wasn't trying to be mean, but the fact that she said it in such an offhand manner, as if it were ok to be ill but not queer - ARGH. I felt like shaking her. Dan did, which was interesting. I think she may be coming round slowly now, but it still makes me angry that she couldn't accept it as something I am, rather than something I lackBut yes. NEXT
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I do realise you can't convince everyone - it's just, you know, most of the everyone won't be with me for Christmas in fifty years, unlike my sisters. (I hope, anyway.)
Your brother sounds both awesome, ntelligent, and ADORABLE. "You know, I don't think I'm gay"? AWWWWW.
*hugs you back* Ohhh, family. So damn claustrophobic. BUT WE ARE BACK IN THE LAND OF FUN. How was Frankie and Benny's?
My family is just so stunted on this kind of stuff. My sister has just moved into a shared flat and is oh so excited about her gay flatmate. "Oh he's very gay" and "Well, of course he has *insert film/music/anything here*"
He's not a novelty, he's a person. GTFO.
They know pretty much nothing about any of my interests in LGBT just because there's no getting through to them.
Families suck. Hopefully Norwich will be better soon *hugs*
Arrrgh. Mine is EXACTLY the same. I can remember saying to my mum that I was going to see my mate Ash, but not for a bit because he'd be watching Top Gear and Jeremy Clarkson makes me want to stab things. She burst out laughing. "Isn't he the gay one?"
"Yes."
"He's not allowed to watch Top Gear!" Etc. Particularly aggravating since one of Ash's pet peeves is this whole gay = camp idea - he's a man's man, and also an unrepentant, sitting-in-his-boyfriend's-lap bottom.
And of course, they all talk about Harry my 'gay best friend' - the kind every girl should have, like a handbag. >:(
But Norwich is sooo much better. I'm loving it now I'm back. COME SEE US, OUR HOUSE IS AMAZING.
Wait. What. You don't like Top Gear? I should have been aware of this. What. We can no longer be friends. I'm sorry.
But ugh I know what you mean. I don't want to tell my family, especially as I'm going to be living here for the next year. My dad once said(while drunk but still) we should lock up all the gays. Or shoot them. Most of my friends know I'm pretty much middle of the road, I like guys/girls/undecided but I just can't tell my parents. If I ever ended up with a girl i would tell them, but not till then I think. I feel bad for not being 'out and proud' or whatever because I see nothing wrong with it, and I'm happy when people are comfortable with themselves.
I miss Norwich sometimes. I miss you guys and the fun times. Not the uni lol. I've just sent off my application to ucas again, but not to UEA again-they don't do the course I want to do. I kind of want to come see you guys, but I'm worried it would be weird. I've hardly kept in touch. ahjkcdhfe I'm being all weird now BAI.
:( That sucks. But I don't think you need to feel bad about not being out and proud - if I'd thought I'd lose my sisters over it, I wouldn't have told them (unless, likely, I was in a relationship with a girl). Hell, I almost never discussed a crush on a girl until I went to uni.
I guess it makes sense not to apply to UEA again! It might be a little weird, but I don't think it'd be too bad - after all, I got no awkward at all from that time in Camden. And our house is a place where awkwardness is crushed by the niceness of Miss Godfrey and Violet and the non-stop chatter of me.
:) And you're not being weird, you're being vaguely socially paranoid. Much like EVERYONE EVER.
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*writes you a story to cheer you up*
Argh, people who DON'T WANT TO UNDERSTAND.
Look. I know family can be extremely stupid, but sometimes you have to accept that no matter what you do you can't convice everyone.
I have a friend who thinks being gay is a birth defect - an illness. When I told her she was wrong, she told me to look in nature. There's no such thing as gay animals, right? I corrected her.
I could go on and on (because it went on and on and on, but the point is that in the end I gave up. She wouldn't allow her mind to open that little bit to really listen to what I was saying.
When I told her I was bisexual she basically went, "Well, you're defected then." She wasn't trying to be mean, but the fact that she said it in such an offhand manner, as if it were ok to be ill but not queer - ARGH.
I felt like shaking her. Dan did, which was interesting.
I think she may be coming round slowly now, but it still makes me angry that she couldn't accept it as something I am, rather than something I lackBut yes. NEXT ( ... )
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I do realise you can't convince everyone - it's just, you know, most of the everyone won't be with me for Christmas in fifty years, unlike my sisters. (I hope, anyway.)
Your brother sounds both awesome, ntelligent, and ADORABLE. "You know, I don't think I'm gay"? AWWWWW.
*hugs you back* Ohhh, family. So damn claustrophobic. BUT WE ARE BACK IN THE LAND OF FUN. How was Frankie and Benny's?
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My family is just so stunted on this kind of stuff. My sister has just moved into a shared flat and is oh so excited about her gay flatmate. "Oh he's very gay" and "Well, of course he has *insert film/music/anything here*"
He's not a novelty, he's a person. GTFO.
They know pretty much nothing about any of my interests in LGBT just because there's no getting through to them.
Families suck. Hopefully Norwich will be better soon *hugs*
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"Yes."
"He's not allowed to watch Top Gear!" Etc. Particularly aggravating since one of Ash's pet peeves is this whole gay = camp idea - he's a man's man, and also an unrepentant, sitting-in-his-boyfriend's-lap bottom.
And of course, they all talk about Harry my 'gay best friend' - the kind every girl should have, like a handbag. >:(
But Norwich is sooo much better. I'm loving it now I'm back. COME SEE US, OUR HOUSE IS AMAZING.
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But ugh I know what you mean. I don't want to tell my family, especially as I'm going to be living here for the next year. My dad once said(while drunk but still) we should lock up all the gays. Or shoot them. Most of my friends know I'm pretty much middle of the road, I like guys/girls/undecided but I just can't tell my parents. If I ever ended up with a girl i would tell them, but not till then I think. I feel bad for not being 'out and proud' or whatever because I see nothing wrong with it, and I'm happy when people are comfortable with themselves.
I miss Norwich sometimes. I miss you guys and the fun times. Not the uni lol. I've just sent off my application to ucas again, but not to UEA again-they don't do the course I want to do. I kind of want to come see you guys, but I'm worried it would be weird. I've hardly kept in touch. ahjkcdhfe I'm being all weird now BAI.
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:( That sucks. But I don't think you need to feel bad about not being out and proud - if I'd thought I'd lose my sisters over it, I wouldn't have told them (unless, likely, I was in a relationship with a girl). Hell, I almost never discussed a crush on a girl until I went to uni.
I guess it makes sense not to apply to UEA again! It might be a little weird, but I don't think it'd be too bad - after all, I got no awkward at all from that time in Camden. And our house is a place where awkwardness is crushed by the niceness of Miss Godfrey and Violet and the non-stop chatter of me.
:) And you're not being weird, you're being vaguely socially paranoid. Much like EVERYONE EVER.
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