Benefits of being queer

[lokifan]

You know, I do think being queer has done wonders for my confidence. Not directly, but - one big thing is that I’m fat, which puts me outside of ~traditional beauty standards. I’m rarely self-conscious about this, but it is a thing, and certainly having put on weight over Christmas it’s a thing.

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[ceciliaj]

yessss. I'm in a super boy-loving place right now, but I hate to think of my life without the love of women playing a huge part in it. Like, for me personally, all my relationships with women have led to me loving and appreciating my body more, whereas sadly, I often have self-esteem-lowering encounters with men, even if there are still pleasurable aspects to those relationships. It's funny because people always worry about women being sooo weak and susceptible to media messaging, but the problem is actually it's men who are susceptible to it and put their egos in having a hot girl at their side.

[lokifan]

I'm in a super boy-loving place right now, but I hate to think of my life without the love of women playing a huge part in it.

Srsly. Like, even if I end up with a guy long-term my life would've been way poorer for not having those romantic/sexual relationships with women.

all my relationships with women have led to me loving and appreciating my body more, whereas sadly, I often have self-esteem-lowering encounters with men, even if there are still pleasurable aspects to those relationships.

OMFG TRUTH. God, maybe those 80s political lesbians had a point :P

Oh man I was just talking about the idea of women as susceptible to media messaging the other day. Gah and pfft. I mean we all are, but yeah, the subconscious assumption that women are weak in that way is just everywhere. And maybe because media is so often uncritically aimed at them??? we don't question like, what does James Bond or whatever make men think they need to be or should want in the way we handwring over 50 Shades.