I read your link about The Scientist. I love that song...so much meaning there. That song haunted me a few months ago, in fact this is the first time that I've listened to it since that time and it's nice to see that it doesn't hurt anymore to hear it.
It's a great song, isn't it? There are a lot of covers out there - some great, some good, some awful. I suppose that's true with most things. Anywho, I really like the Avril version, surprising for me.
Your side makes sense, but in a way the girl's side also makes sense.
From someone who's not so passionate about their job, yeah that comes off as a boring relationship. I'm picturing a guy who makes an appointment to see you, does all of the functional things required of a relationship, you know, the ordinary things, as opposed to someone who does all the extraordinary things.
You'd be surprised how much the little ordinary things add up. Showing up on time, making plans, etc. These things bother one greatly when they're not around.
I'm not saying that other things can't be there - sure passion's great - but it starts with the basic.
Ordinary means normal. Normal means average... you get the point.
So is this necessarily a bad thing? You claim treating a relationship like an occupation is a good thing, but without passion, wouldn't that be equivalent to normal/ordinary/average?
If only! I'd spread the wealth. How is the dating life up there, anywho?
When I was Big Red, I found that there was a lot of "inbreeding" in the sense that my friends often dated each other's exes. Is that true when you get older as well?
And I'm gonna have to politely disagree with you on that one. A chore is an obligation and relationships should never ever be treated as such. You are with someone because you WANT to be with that person, not because you have to. Otherwise there is always singlehood.
And I don't know about you, but if my significant other ever tells me that being with me is such a chore, I'd be insulted.
Apologies, I think we've got a few lines crossed: dating can and often is a chore.
Sitting down to coffee with yet another boring person with whom you actually don't have anything in common in the light of day is most assuredly a chore - especially if you go on six dates a week, as I did for a stretch.
But one does the chores for the result: cleaning=clean house exercise=good health dating=meeting that right person
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I read your link about The Scientist. I love that song...so much meaning there. That song haunted me a few months ago, in fact this is the first time that I've listened to it since that time and it's nice to see that it doesn't hurt anymore to hear it.
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From someone who's not so passionate about their job, yeah that comes off as a boring relationship. I'm picturing a guy who makes an appointment to see you, does all of the functional things required of a relationship, you know, the ordinary things, as opposed to someone who does all the extraordinary things.
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I'm not saying that other things can't be there - sure passion's great - but it starts with the basic.
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So is this necessarily a bad thing? You claim treating a relationship like an occupation is a good thing, but without passion, wouldn't that be equivalent to normal/ordinary/average?
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When I was Big Red, I found that there was a lot of "inbreeding" in the sense that my friends often dated each other's exes. Is that true when you get older as well?
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I haven't seen you round these parts in ages!
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And I don't know about you, but if my significant other ever tells me that being with me is such a chore, I'd be insulted.
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Sitting down to coffee with yet another boring person with whom you actually don't have anything in common in the light of day is most assuredly a chore - especially if you go on six dates a week, as I did for a stretch.
But one does the chores for the result:
cleaning=clean house
exercise=good health
dating=meeting that right person
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