Well I think you're in good shape for the one you'd like to spend time with. I'd be far more likely to go for a guy who made an exception for me than one who I knew was going about with six others. Even if you flub fantastically you know you put yourself out there. In this case, no shame in trying.
And sleep is good. I'm opposite from you in that regard. I sleep most when I'm unhappy. And only need about 4 hours when I'm happy. Different manifestation I guess.
There is a particular sort of misery that accompanies the knowledge that your emotional fabric doesn't have enough thread to cover someone else.. Even if that someone else, is lovely. Sometimes, it breaks your heart by association. I personally, have the emotional range of a tea spoon when it comes to romantic attachments, and if I could check a "left as opposed to leaving" option box- I would do it. If you've found someone you feel a real desire to "spend time" with, don't worry about the possibility of not making a good ending.. Maybe you will, maybe you won't- either way, it will be time well spent for you both.
Just curious...why would you make time to see someone you don't really want to see? If it's because you don't have anything else better to do, then it would be killing time, no? Unless it's someone who wants to see you but you don't want to see them. Then that might be a different story altogether.
Good luck with the mutual spending time person! Personally, I think it's a better use of energy to enjoy the time you spend together rather than worry about how either one of you may or may not screw it up. It's easy for me to say because I'm only looking in from the outside, but I really do hope things turn out well for you.
And sort of off topic - clicked on your link and found the fun little community you've got there. I just joined, though I don't ever claim to have "good" musical tastes, hope that's ok :p.
just to chime in. making time is a way of being polite to someone who keeps bugging to see you. instead of being an asshole and making things awkward, you make time for them so they can sort of get off your back for the mean time.
although i'm not sure that's what he meant exactly, that's just what i understood from it. hope it helps!
Thanks for the input :). I can understand that too. I guess I just have a more muddled sense of making and spending time - usually, if I'm making the effort to make time, it's to spend it with someone I want to see.
That's exactly what I meant. You make time because if there's just a little something there, maybe you can fan that into something real. Most times though, you're just being polite.
this is my favorite post thus far. i can totally relate with the making and killing time situation. but its funny how the person who i'm killing time with seems to want to spend time with me. i have a lot of time to kill so i can't really say i'm spending time with him. although the time killed is great. hope things work out with the person who you want to mutually spend time with!
thats true about killing time. even something as casual can build to spending time and ultimately being together. but i'm one to hope for the worse. might or might not be a good defense mechanism. i don't know yet.
maybe we just have different definitions for words... but wouldn't you make time for someone you want to see? i think of "making time" as when you are too busy with other stuff, but you have to carve out time to do something you want to do.
Perhaps - it's all just nuances, I suppose. But spending time is (to me) when you have something valuable and you pick and choose what to do with it. Making time (to me) seems more like carving out time you can't really spare because there are so many other things you have to - or want to - do.
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And sleep is good. I'm opposite from you in that regard. I sleep most when I'm unhappy. And only need about 4 hours when I'm happy. Different manifestation I guess.
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As for the guy, I think you'd like to meet the guy who knows what's out there and decides your the one that's right for him.
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I personally, have the emotional range of a tea spoon when it comes to romantic attachments, and if I could check a "left as opposed to leaving" option box- I would do it.
If you've found someone you feel a real desire to "spend time" with, don't worry about the possibility of not making a good ending.. Maybe you will, maybe you won't- either way, it will be time well spent for you both.
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Good luck with the mutual spending time person! Personally, I think it's a better use of energy to enjoy the time you spend together rather than worry about how either one of you may or may not screw it up. It's easy for me to say because I'm only looking in from the outside, but I really do hope things turn out well for you.
And sort of off topic - clicked on your link and found the fun little community you've got there. I just joined, though I don't ever claim to have "good" musical tastes, hope that's ok :p.
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although i'm not sure that's what he meant exactly, that's just what i understood from it. hope it helps!
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I don't want anyone to be polite with me.
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i can totally relate with the making and killing time situation.
but its funny how the person who i'm killing time with seems to want to spend time with me.
i have a lot of time to kill so i can't really say i'm spending time with him. although the time killed is great.
hope things work out with the person who you want to mutually spend time with!
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As for the killing time, you never know how these things will work out.
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even something as casual can build to spending time and ultimately being together.
but i'm one to hope for the worse.
might or might not be a good defense mechanism.
i don't know yet.
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