Blogflog - Father's Day 2015

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Link: Father's Day 2015
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's blog. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.
Mod note: Photo not included in this blogflog because it features Trinity as a child.

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[ext_1626743]

Jonathon was the only boyfriend I ever introduced her to

Because he was the only one you had. C'mon Laurell, you've put enough info out there for us to connect the dots, you don't have to pretend.

I am happy to say that with almost no exceptions we accomplished that. Was it easy? No.

First of all, no, Laurell, YOU did not accomplish that. You've badmouthed your ex in public all over the place: on your blogs, in your books, in your book acknowledgements... We've all seen your passive-aggressive swipes, and more than swipes, against the poor guy. Second, "almost" no exceptions? Urgh.

Most writers are able to write things they haven't personally experienced. That's kind of what being a writer of fiction means. Most human beings, period, are able to imagine things they haven't experienced, especially stuff that's as common as what she's talking about here. And she hasn't bothered to watch the way other families behave before now? Ever?

She managed to never write Gary's name once.

[suzycat]

Was it ever clarified why they broke up? Because despite the way LKH tries to give the impression that she was the one who did the leaving, her negativity towards him decades later implies something different.

I'd say it's not our business but she does rather make it our business.

[ext_1626743]

If Gary ever did anything truly bad, I'm sure she'd be all over it constantly, both in her blog posts and in her in-book slams at Richard. But the only hints -- and in the books, they're more like anvils -- have been that he wanted to be monogamous. And really hates Nathaniel and Micah.

[plum_arden]

I read this entry like yesterday, and since then have been thinking about it here and there. Her referring to Trinity as "our daughter" in relation to Jon offends me. I am a step-parent, and while I've been in her life since she was 19 months old, and helped potty train this girl, I would never refer to her as "our daughter" when speaking about her. To me that's just a slap toward her mother. And while I may not like the woman, she's still my step-daughter's mother. She's been there the girl's entire life. I get that Laurell doesn't like Gary, she's made that more than crystal clear. But, Gary is still Trinity's father, and is still involved in her life. He didn't divorce her. And Trinity wanting a way to keep the father's separated...or was that Laurell's idea? Like I said, I've been around my step-daughter the majority of her life, and she calls me by my first name. If she'd wanted to give me a nickname, I'd have been fine with that, it was totally her choice. But, I wouldn't have wanted "Mom" or any form as long as her mother was

[suzycat]

Yeah, it makes me uncomfortable too, but I guess some people do think that way. I have met people who have the two daddies thing in much the same way Trinity does.

My brother is a step-dad and he was never called anything but his first name by his step-son, who he met aged 4; his biological son, that boy's half-brother, calls him Dad. I call him my nephew and sometimes my step-nephew or half-nephew, when explaining it to others.

[desert_vixen]

I do call my stepfather by his nickname (Butch) like the majority of the world - while I love him very much and he's a huge part of my life, Dad/Daddy is reserved for my father. My parents have always been good about respecting that (other family members not so much) - Daddy G just sounds silly and made-up for one's own father.

There have been some interesting moments because of it, like a running gag between me and my (half)brothers - we never use the discriminator - about "your dad" or "my dad", but my stepfather's not threatened by me not calling him Dad.

Also BS on the "I didn't know what dads did" - maybe not the intimate knowledge of one particular relationship, but come on! That's another thing, though - LKH doesn't seem to be good about realizing that it's possible to have different dynamics in a type of relationship.

[magdalen77]

Like I said on Amazon. LaLa and Jonboi might refer to her ex as "Daddy G", but I doubt her daughter does or did. That's just more of LaLa trying erase her ex from her life. I've been with the man since his oldest grandchild was tiny and they don't refer to me as grandma anything. They call me "Miss Maggie". As do his kids. That was how he introduced me to them.

[rodentfanatic]

Wait, did LKH's dad die? I thought her background was like Anita's, with her grandma moving in to help raise her after her mom died and her dad being busy. Maybe that's what she means by having been "fatherless" but she's making it sound like he died...and if she is indeed just omitting that fact to make it sound like she was an actual orphan, that's pretty damn tasteless.

[dwg]

As far as I know, no he's not dead. IIRC there's a blog about how he showed up at her mother's funeral and relatives made him leave and he's never been part of her life.

[rodentfanatic]

Wait, did LKH's dad die? I thought her background was like Anita's, with her grandma moving in to help raise her after her mom died and her dad being busy. Maybe that's what she means by having been "fatherless" but she's making it sound like he died...and if she is indeed just omitting that fact to make it sound like she was an actual orphan, that's pretty damn tasteless.

[ext_1377938]

Well, this makes me uncomfortable. Hugely. If my mother wrote or said this about my stepfather in a public forum, while casually insinuating that my father was never a good father to me, I would so angry. My stepfather's great, I love him a lot, but he's not my father. I would also be mortified to have my childhood aired in such a public way. I hope that some permission was sought before she wrote this post, because it would be humiliating to find out about this after the fact.