Blogflog - Find the Happily Ever After that Works for You

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Link: Find the Happily Ever After that Works for You
Disclaimer: This blog entry is verbatim, as originally posted on LKH's blog. Copyright belongs to Ma Petite Enterprises.

Comments

[dreamstrifer]

How much you wanna bet this never happens? I know that when i go through a traumatic experience, I have to talk to a complete stranger about it. I mean, I know there's some people who do talk to complete strangers (and I'm not talking about therapists/group therapy), but I highly doubt she's had ANYbody talk to her about it, let alone several women like she's implying here.

I stopped reading after she mentioned being married to a man 12 years her junior. Because she just has to prove she's so much more well-adjusted than those OTHER women who had painful divorces, amirite?

[suzycat]

Yes. Also all other women of her generation who have been married are sexist slaves to the notion that men must be providers. But not her.

[dreamstrifer]

It's just pretty offensive to me because my mom, who I admire more than anyone else in the world, is of her generation. And it's like, LKH has no respect for other women in the world, even ones that had hard divorces and may not understand her lifestyle choices. Instead of crowing about how special she is, why doesn't she just... not.

I think that would solve everything.

[txvoodoo]

Truth. I'm also her generation, and she embarrasses me.

[korax9]

I'm slowly starting to feel like while following LKH's blogposts, I accidentally ended up in the Agony Aunt subsection of the blogosphere. I mean, is she currently writing anything? Other than graciously allowing other women to work after having children and giving her "follow your heart" love advice?

(Not that writers always have to write about writing, but they're also not my to-go source for continuous relationship advice. Sure, she's always used to blog for personal stuff, too, but I mean, this was four posts in a row circling mostly around the same topics.)

[the_mome_wrath]

Sure, she's always used to blog for personal stuff, too, but I mean, this was four posts in a row circling mostly around the same topics.

I think it's been more than four posts in a row. At least it feels like it, but that might just be because of all the "I'm so happy now" posts. One or two posts I could understand, but doesn't she have anything else to talk bout? She's an author, there's plenty of things she could write about related to her books and the industry.

[apep727]

Yeah, especially with stuff like the Hugo Awards and the Sad/Rabid Puppies. It seems like just about every author in SFF (which should include LKH, what with her "inventing" UF) has chimed in, whether pro-Puppy, anti-Puppy, or between. But no, she's just so happy in her little bubble.

And I know that there's a delay between stuff posting to her blog and it posting here, but come on. This is a big deal, and the Hugo ballot was posted three weeks ago. She should have said something by now.

[ext_1626743]

I hope she continues to ignore it. She'd probably end up supporting Vox Day.

[ext_1626743]

At the gym, at the women’s luncheon, hair salon, I’ve had a variant of this conversation often

No you haven't. You don't live in a cheesy movie set in a small town in 1950s Alabama. The women's luncheon?

I'm over the fact that she lies all the time. She is just so terrible at making up believable lies. Which is kind of a drawback for someone who writes fiction.

The women suddenly don’t want to talk to me anymore, because I found dating after my divorce easy, once I started dating younger men.

Or because you didn't start dating Jon AFTER your divorce.

That's it, I can't read any more of this sexist fantasy. Liar liar pants on fire, Laurell.

[colliemommie]

It's like she's living in some strange remake of The Women, isn't it?

[ext_1626743]

It really is. Like, she thinks divorces are always caused by men leaving women for younger women (except her divorce, she's speshul that way.) Which, how would that even work demographically? My mother left my father. When he remarried, it was to a woman his age (technically, one year older than him) who had almost exactly the same kind of job he did, and the idea that he'd want her to quit is completely bonkers. My mom's second marriage is also to a man her own age who supports her career. None of this stuff is unusual among the people of their generation I know. And they're older than LKH.

The imaginary bubble LKH lives in is scaring me.

[suzycat]

LKH is such a special snowflake.

[shadwing]

As some of us on the Amazon boards have said.

"So when told that a woman's husband left her for a younger woman, your response is to say you did the EXACT SAME THING to your husband by ditching him for a younger man crow how much happier you are and you did the right thing and who cares about your first husband! And you wonder why other women dislike you?"

[apep727]

Holy crap, she DID do the exact same thing. But of course she can't put two and two together and realize that these women (if they exist at all) might be turning hostile because they realize that LKH *isn't* the sympathetic ear they wanted. And for some reason she expects to be *praised* for this behavior? Why, because she's a woman, that somehow makes it okay?

Oh, who am I kidding - it's not that she's a woman, it's because she's LKH, whose novels run on Protagonist-Centered Morality.

[shadwing]

She has it in her head that if guys can do it, and get away with it (definition of 'away' usually means little to no social scorn in LKH land) then woman can do it to!

Not realizing dumping your first spouse for a 'newer model' with said first spouse was very supportive of your career and may have sacrificed allot for you may not be criminal...but will get you the side eye regardless of gender.