You Talk Too Much

[liveonearth]

Nice post here about how to encourage a 50/50 split of talk time and have better conversations. Unfortunately there's no advice on what to do if the OTHER person is the overtalker, except perhaps to excuse yourself to go get another drink.

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[anais_pf]

I am most likely NOT an overtalker and I think I probably let the other person talk at least 50% of the time, most times, but I read the article and found it helpful when talking with someone I was meeting in person for the first time. After I shared something long-ish about myself, I made room for him to say something about his own life, and encouraged him with questions when there were breaks in the conversation. Thanks.

[liveonearth]

Yeah, I am more like you, or quieter. I tend ask questions and listen, and I don't volunteer much about myself. When the other person never asks a single question about me, they often talk incessantly and do not end up learning anything about me. When they think I'm a great person when they don't know a damn thing about me, I drift away....