Why does my sister have to be so cruel?

[littleone87]

Fighting with my sister again, but what else is new? I am so upset, and I can't stop crying. Why the fuck does she ALWAYS do this to me. She gives me an inferiority complex. I can't say anything right, I can't do anything right. However, when I was in the hospital in July, on the very brink of death she was as sweet as pie. I need something to make

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[lady_eilthana]

That's not fair. You should try to not let it get to you (as much as that is possible). She shouldn't make you feel like this - and I don't know anything about her, but it sounds as if she needs to make you feel inferior in order to not feel inferior herself, in order to feel secure. Who knows?! But it's definitely not okay and maybe, if you can, you should talk to her and tell her that her behavior and her words hurt you.

[littleone87]

Thanks, Esther. You're right, it's not fair. She always talks over me and baits me so I do fight with her. I told her I was going to call the police. Sometimes she can be so sweet and other times a mean awful bitch. It's SO hard to let it not get to me when she accuses me of hiding and taking things on her when she is in fact the one who lost it. I wish I could talk to her, but I doubt it will happen. She is not a good talker, especially when she's ALWAYS pissed off. :( I'm just defeated in so many way.

[lady_eilthana]

That sounds bad! :(
If possible, try to ignore it when she tries to provoke you. It sounds like she can't deal with being the one who lost something etc. and needs somebody else to blame in order to feel better.

[lexiesloan]

I'm so sorry, Ally. *HUGE BONE-CRUSHING HUG*

[littleone87]

Thanks, Katie! *HUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUGE BONE CRUSHING HUG* I love you! Thank you for being my friend! ♥

[aelijah85]

When my oldest sister would do ridiculous things like this I would literally look at her, not respond or tell her she cant take her frustrations out on me and walk away. After doing this enough times she no longer does this anymore. I love my sister, but I am no ones verbal punching bag. I agree with Lady, but you don't have to "talk" to her to tell her how you feel, you just need to tell her how you feel and let her know you are willing to talk, and if she starts to bait you or whatever, you get up and walk away. I don't like saying this because she is your sister, but this honestly sounds like an abusive relationship, especially the blaming you for her negative and abusive actions towards you. So basically what I am saying is, take your power back and don't let her get you down like this anymore, unless she follows you or ties you to a chair she cant bait an empty room.

I am so sorry this keeps happening to you, I hope things get better soon.

[lady_eilthana]

I agree with you, but I just thought that maybe trying to talk to her would be a better way (or more effective) since a house doesn't really have that many places to go to where Ally's sister can't follow her (unless she locks herself in - which I'm not sure would help the situation much because she has to come out again at some point) and Ally doesn't really feel that comfortable outside. I don't know. I'd try to walk away from a situation like that, too, so I agree with you on that, but I just don't know what'd work better in a situation where I don't really know the other person.

[aelijah85]

I don't think there IS a sure fire way to solve this issue unless BOTH parties are willing to participate in making it better, and right now it doesn't seem like her sister is willing, but I don't know her to say for sure.
But, it wont hurt to test the walking away theory to know for sure if she will follow or not, it just upsets me she even has to deal with this situation, because I know it is emotionally draining.

[lady_eilthana]

I'm sure it is emotionally draining. It's really unfair of her sister, especially because she seems to be so uncooperative.