Anti-Love

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I’m late in writing about this, as troutqueen posed the questions almost a week ago. It’s been running through my head ever since she did, though, and I’ve been determined to answer it. It’s also a great reason to use the new icon I made, the idea for which I have shamelessly stolen from archdiva. At any rate, Lisa’s questions are:

1) What 3 songs do you think are

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Yes. You're insidious-one of my favorite words!

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I'm not sure that what you've done, or what you're doing, can be viewed as a separate entity of who you are. The job we doesn't define us, but the things that we do and strive for do. There would be a difference if when i was working freelance, for example, if all i did was take the easy jobs and collect unemployment and sit about the house, as opposed to working to make things better. Trout would have been justified on a thousand levels if she kicked me to the curb because i decided to just stop doing and let her be the breadwinner.

People that go out and build things, create things, are often seen as sexier/more desirable, because, hell, those things are sexy. Self-confidence and drive are sexy. Those are things that define you, not just external features, and way more integral to a person than body shape, appearance.

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Hrm. I'm not sure I agree with you . . . or not, for that matter. I see your point about ambition and creativity, but I'm not sure it works in this scenario.

I've done virtually nothing with the company since I incorporated. (Hell, I haven't even bothered to change my mailing address since I moved.) I felt like he was appreciating me for something that I perceive as a "failure" and that, were he to discover how little I've accomplished, his appreciation would be disappointed. Admittedly, I don't know his actual thoughts . . . it's just a sense that I got.

I guess I want someone to appreciate me regardless of my success or failure, ambition or lack of thereof, creativity or dullness. Because I, like many people, go through long periods of relative dryness and when my get-up-and-go gets up and goes, I don't want my partner to get up and go with it.

Re: Well...

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blah blah blah.