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[lindsay2002]

hi,
This friend of mine asked me if its right to be with your bf but be attracted to girls alot.
what do you tihnk i wasn't sure what to say to.
help??

Much luv

Comments

[darkkyss]

If the BF is the one she wants to be with, it doesn't really matter who she's attracted to.. unless she acts on it and they are supposed to be in a closed relationship (not seeing/sleeping with other people)...

I love my partner. I plan on being with him and only him, for the rest of my life.. but a LOT of girls turn my head :D Boys too for that matter. I am often attracted to people of both sexes.. but i don't act on it because we're committed to each other and no one else.. (i mean, hey this might change.. but i doubt i want it to ;) )

[lindsay2002]

its nice to know what to really what to say. i guess i just needed to find the words to say. cus i am not nervous about it i just want her to know that i care and that i am there for her whatever she needs..
thank you..

[excessbaggage0]

you find other men attractive even when your in a relationship right? So what's wrong with finding women attractive if your bi? I find both attractive with or without a relationship its only natural to be attracted to people. its whether or not you act on your attractions

[lindsay2002]

well that makes sense to me. alot of sense..Thank you. as i replied to Excessbaggage0 she also has said that she had strong feeling for an another but she loves her boyfirned and would not want to do anything to hurt or lose him but she said that she don't know if that person would understand what her feelings are..i wasn't sure what to think or say..i don't know what to say..I wanna just give her a hug and say its okay. she was kinda concerned about it. She dose not want to tell her boyfriend b/c she is not sure what it would do to him.. I guess i am the closest person in her life..always have been.. i am that person she comes to.. thank you again..what do you think?

[jennillen]

Its all about her sexuality, I think its totally normal and I wouldn't worry about it :) as long as your friend is committed to her boyfriend and wouldn't do anything to hurt him. Maybe she's Bisexual and isn't sure about her sexuality yet, its not a concern.

I hope that helps your question.

[lindsay2002]

She has said to me as we were talking that she dose love him very much..She would not do anyhting to hurt him.. but there was and is that part of her that wonders... Okay i will try and see if that works for her..B.c i want to help her but i am not sure what to say..she also said that i was the only one that she had told. is it wrong to talk to you guys about it. I think that i will tell her what i had said and just wanted advice.. She said that i was the closest friend she ever had and i mean a great deal to her.. We are close have always been you think that she had more than a friendship for me?
I guess probably not.. i guess i care for her as my best friend.
thank for ur reply whatcha think?

[mcw120588]

tell him that its ok to be "attracted" physically just not to touch or be attracted emotionally to other people...cause thats just messed up

[lindsay2002]

alright...I can try...She's confused i suppose..B/c she loves him very much but she's felt as if she was always attracted to girls.

[angelsonfire]

I think attraction is perfectly fine. As long as she doesn't act on those attractions. It's actions that cause problems, not likeness.

[lindsay2002]

true