Pitfalls

[lilmissnever]

Sometimes, if I'm not careful, I make mistakes. The breadth and depth of these mistakes is directly proportional to the number of hours of sleep I have accumulated over the course of the week. After wrenching my sleep pattern into wake-up-at-seven-in-the-morning, I am chronically short of sleep, and not even sneaking out of my foreign policy class

Comments

[g_na]

There needs to be a universal primer on dating, and one of its main topics should be "When is 'going out for a beer' simply going out for a beer, and when is it a 'date'?" There have been too many times when I've met someone for the proverbial coffee and I had no idea if I was on a date. Sometimes I wanted it to be, sometimes I definitely did not, but you can't just ask the other person. Ack. I'm so glad I'm not single. But then again, apparently being Not Single is no guarantee against the dreaded accidental date.

[frederic]

I remember back in grad school, one of the new students came up to me and said that he was interested in seeing punk shows and if I went to any to invite him. So I invited him along to an all ages show to see some bands at a VFW that I had been planning on going to. I didn't realize until 2/3rds of the way through that we were on a date! He did get the message that we weren't.

Sometimes the proverbial coffee takes many forms...

[lilmissnever]

I don't want to be one of those creatures that goes to the opposite extreme and feels the need to mention her unavailability on account of an existing romantic entanglement at every given opportunity. Surely there must be a reasonable middle ground.

[lilmissnever]

It was awkward, oh yes. I had a moment in which I replayed our entire conversation in my head and felt very stupid, but the only alternative I could think of was: "Hello. How nice to see you again. Have you met my boyfriend?"

[violentbloom]

I hate it when that happens! Sadly I seem to get a lot of the boy I dated a few times and haven't seen in years wanting to go out. Uh, thanks but no. I suppose it sort of a compliment. But it's always awkward. Hello, oh you can meet my boyfriend when we get coffee! (even if I have to rent one)

[xxxkimbalinaxxx]

oh goodness, eva. i'm glad you escaped from your non-date. i'm sure he was a nice fellow, but i think i would have also bolted like a deer in headlights.

on another note, your post has made me crave a tamale from the tamale lady. damnit. my grilled cheese sammich will have to suffice for now.

are you coming to speech camp on tuesday?

[lilmissnever]

No camp for me. I have lectures. When classes begin again in the fall, I will kidnap you and bring you Tamale Lady tamales.

[zapevaj]

Surely it's not entirely your fault. "Tell me personal things. Are you seeing anyone?" is definitely one of the least deft ways I've ever heard to say "Hello, Person of My Preferred Gender, I am interested in you!"