Question (Elijah)lige2431March 31 2010, 22:24:25 UTC
So, to both Daria and Pyraxis (hope I got your name right, I'm awful with names)....
Forest is off on how this is a social-dominance (and possibly personal dominance) issue. He says in the animal world, it would be a way of establishing who is who on the pecking order.
Thing is, she has us in a bind now. If we disgrace ourselves socially, she is still one-up on the pecking order.
To return to what Forest was talking about, horse trainers who are not at the top of their game use this to establish dominance with horses. It usually has the effect of creating a somewhat depressed or uncooperative horse....and often the trainer ends up getting kicked, which tickles Forest to no end. (I'm talking here about the unwelcome touch thing, I mean.)
So anyway, having rambled....any advice from either or both of you - ? We don't want to embarrass ourselves or our family socially, but we definitely want this (pardon me) *bitch* to get the message that she may not touch us.
Re: Question (Elijah)pyraxisMarch 31 2010, 22:36:29 UTC
Oh yeah, no question it's a social dominance game. The problem is I gave up playing the women's social games years ago. It was much easier to knock out my desires for a caring family than it was to be tossed around in the emotional maelstrom that comes of trying to hold my own around messed-up women. I'm standoffish in a big way - but I'm not desperately lonely, because I approach sensitive and caring women individually, and give all the others the cold shoulder. One of the worst things you can do to a woman like that is to ignore her and push her away, and then not feel bad because of it. Guilt is how they get their claws into you.
So a question back at you - how would it embarrass you or your family if you stepped away from her touch or gave her sharp words?
I like Forest's comment ,"We have definitely met some people who were not Jesus". :-) Yeah, me too sweetie! One of my rules of thumb: The more they claim to be "Jesus" the more likely they aren't. I know you are familiar with the saying "wolves in sheep's clothing".
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*waves to Forest*
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Forest is off on how this is a social-dominance (and possibly personal dominance) issue. He says in the animal world, it would be a way of establishing who is who on the pecking order.
Thing is, she has us in a bind now. If we disgrace ourselves socially, she is still one-up on the pecking order.
To return to what Forest was talking about, horse trainers who are not at the top of their game use this to establish dominance with horses. It usually has the effect of creating a somewhat depressed or uncooperative horse....and often the trainer ends up getting kicked, which tickles Forest to no end. (I'm talking here about the unwelcome touch thing, I mean.)
So anyway, having rambled....any advice from either or both of you - ?
We don't want to embarrass ourselves or our family socially, but we definitely want this (pardon me) *bitch* to get the message that she may not touch us.
Any advice would be appreciated, thanks.
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So a question back at you - how would it embarrass you or your family if you stepped away from her touch or gave her sharp words?
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We're feeling a bit like human society is the horse that bucked us off.
Glad to know you're on our side.
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