Comments | libertina: Seventeen, clumsy and shy--that's the story of my life

libertina

Seventeen, clumsy and shy--that's the story of my life

Jul 02, 2004 14:09

I'll just never be able to cope with certain things. It doesn't matter how old I get or what my relationship status is; being confronted with human contact in a bar/club type paralyzes me with social anxiety to the point that I appear rude. And then I either flee like a neurotic Cinderella or just masochistically sit there averting all eyes for the ( Read more... )

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buscemi July 2 2004, 11:19:14 UTC

I happen to think you're pretty damn cool, btw. (Not for any specific reason, just for being who you are.)

libertina July 2 2004, 15:18:49 UTC

Hey--I'm rubber, you're glue. Everything you say bounces off of me and sticks to you! :P

Thanks for saying that. You've always been so nice to me.

In English class I did the best, because I cheated on the test buscemi July 2 2004, 15:45:00 UTC

You're welcome. You have so many wonderful qualities that I don't want you to forget. :)

Have you ever thought about writing a book? No, really. You're a great storyteller.

libragirly1313 July 2 2004, 19:09:28 UTC

There have been times when I was at shows spazzing out, having a good time, dancing as I so horribly do, & I've seen some guy dancing next to me, smiling, & I've given them cold stares & abruptly walked away. I think that's an unnerving way to approach someone at a show, but still, I've berated myself for probably coming off as incredibly rude. If it's just a straightforward bar & I meet someone, & if he lets me do more of the talking, I tend to start talking right away about the geeky stuff that's important only to me (like, world politics or music or comedians), & say very little about my personal life. I think I do that because I'm so worried about someone who's approached me actually liking me & wanting to get close.

Like you, I usually prefer to remain a bit isolated. It's not the nicest way in the world to be, but it's also a lot less stressful!

stoopidfresh July 3 2004, 01:04:13 UTC

All that said, dancing with you to Prince's "Gett Off" at Kit's wedding was one of the best times on the dance floor--any dance floor--I can recall. Not just sayin' that neither.

And there's certainly nothing wrong with politely turning down a potential dance partner. (Unless it's me, of course. *wink*) Lord knows I've bowed out (yes, even me) when I've felt out of my league--the main reason I can dance is 'cos I'm *super* self-conscious about doing ANYthing in front of other people--if I can't do it well (really well), I won't do it. Like, I can swing dance the bare basics, but put me in with the good people and I won't go near the dance floor for a jillion bucks.

stoopidfresh July 3 2004, 01:05:55 UTC

...and all THAT said, I think it'd be great fun to hide in the corner with you at one of these events and be voyeurs together. It's usually where I end up with Beelzebabe at the Batcave, anyway. Sometimes it's a LOT more fun to watch.

junglemasterg July 3 2004, 01:47:57 UTC

one of these days i'll have you invite you to dance, don't worry i can't dance all that well.

datapanik July 3 2004, 03:16:16 UTC

You are not alone. I'm painfully shy at times as well, usually at places where I don't know anyone. I went to a party a month ago where I only knew the hostess, who was too busy running everything to engage a conversation with. I tried to start a few conversations which went nowhere, so I became more withdrawn. I ended up leaving, which was around 10 on a Saturday night, no less. Similar situation at the Iron and Wine show -- I didn't know anyone and didn't strike up a conversation with anyone (admittedly, this was difficult when the band started to play anyway). If I didn't love the band's music as much as I do, I would have left early (which I have done at shows in the past where I was similarly alone and didn't care for the music, either). Being isolated in an audience of hundreds at a concert is painful sometimes ( ... )