Comments | lhynard: More on Rudeness: The Golden Rule and the Internet

lhynard

More on Rudeness: The Golden Rule and the Internet

Aug 11, 2009 14:02

In my last entry, I was pleading with parents to use tact in discussing stories about their children that they may find cute and/or funny but by which others might be disgusted. While I in no way meant to limit this to on-line behavior, it is probably more prevalent of an occurrence on-line these days, with social networking sites becoming the norm ( Read more... )

internet, children, culture, etiquette

Comments 4

izaaksmom August 12 2009, 00:50:27 UTC

I agree with what you are saying. I do indeed teach my son that burping in public is rude. But there are many different levels to culture: there is American culture, Christian-American culture, small-town culture, even a culture within one's own family. The nudity-in-the-locker room relates to another area quite well: modesty. The America-at-large certainly has a different cultural norm than the Christian community. Especially online, when I look at pictures, do I have a right to be offended by someone outside of my sub-culture?? Should that nonChristian be expected to filter me out of their pictures? Or should I perhaps not be their friend in the first place ( ... )

dogs_n_rodents August 13 2009, 05:24:45 UTC

I came back to this post to comment after some thought, but I think D's questions here are (scary! ;)) very similar to questions that came to my mind -- especially about audiences that posts and comments reach.

lhynard August 18 2009, 23:53:08 UTC

See my replies.

lhynard August 18 2009, 23:52:37 UTC

I think you are asking two completely separate groups of questions and they have separate answers.

Especially online, when I look at pictures, do I have a right to be offended by someone outside of my sub-culture?

The vast majority of times that people, including myself, are offended, I don't think they should be. Usually, my taking offense at something means I am being wrongly judgmental or overly sensitive and/or selfish about my opinions.

(As an aside, I don't believe in inherent rights period, but that's another topic, and it misses your point.)

But this has no bearing at all on how I should act towards others. It only has a bearing on how I should respond when people act a certain way to me.

This is not the topic of my post; my topic is, how do I act toward others?

[W]hich audience is my post or pictures reaching, and how is it possible for me to know what each person values or doesn't value?This is a separate question, but a very good one ( ... )