I'm not quite sure what to say other than...this was perfect. I think I agree with pretty much every point you've made here. Really and truly. I've never been in love before and yet I feel like I have a rather mature view of love; I've never seen Buffy and Angel as that shiny happy couple. That's never what they were supposed to be and it frustrates me when people simplify it in that way
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I've never been in love before and yet I feel like I have a rather mature view of love; I've never seen Buffy and Angel as that shiny happy couple.
For me, it was like this: I thought I had a mature view of love, then I fell in love, and all of that went out the window. I couldn't control myself and couldn't help myself and hated myself because I thought I was being immature. But I think that happens to a lot of people; that's just the way love is for most. But what truly matters is what happens afterwards: if you expect always to be a shiny happy couple, you're never going to be happy. If you can accept the fall-out--the what happens once that 'can't help myself' wears off--and keep accepting it every time your lover disappoints you or something goes wrong--that's real love. And I think that's what Buffy and Angel have.
I really hate when people compare the stories because I just say, "hey, Romeo and Juliet had this ideal 'love at first sight' and didn't even know each other and then killed themselves because they
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Heh. I think many of us B/Aers turn kinda inarticulate when it comes to B/A, which makes me sad, but I understand and do it too, you know? So I was thinking about this/dabbling on it for a long time so I could actually try to say something both meaningful and coherent.
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And thanks again for talking about your OTP love. It's nice that there are others who could go on about this ship as long as I can.
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I've never been in love before and yet I feel like I have a rather mature view of love; I've never seen Buffy and Angel as that shiny happy couple.
For me, it was like this: I thought I had a mature view of love, then I fell in love, and all of that went out the window. I couldn't control myself and couldn't help myself and hated myself because I thought I was being immature. But I think that happens to a lot of people; that's just the way love is for most. But what truly matters is what happens afterwards: if you expect always to be a shiny happy couple, you're never going to be happy. If you can accept the fall-out--the what happens once that 'can't help myself' wears off--and keep accepting it every time your lover disappoints you or something goes wrong--that's real love. And I think that's what Buffy and Angel have.
I really hate when people compare the stories because I just say, "hey, Romeo and Juliet had this ideal 'love at first sight' and didn't even know each other and then killed themselves because they ( ... )
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*tears up near the end*
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