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[let_us_trade]

My daughter (my seventeen year old daughter) came home tonight drunk. Not tipsy, not slightly inebriated - royally pissed. And on a school night, no less! Sure, it's summer, but she has summer... things... she goes to, right? So it's still functionally a school night!

And of course somehow I'm the one who ends up sleeping on the sofa (which is why

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[salts_theway]

I...don't really know what to say.

[cons_detective]

I see.

How twentieth century.

[alltoseek]

Voice of experience here: Girls need their fathers involved as much as their mothers. Who do you think they're modeling their potential partners on?

Get over your squick. Sexuality is a human thing, and your girls have been sexual beings since they were babies (not sexually active, but having sexual feelings). If you can talk to your boys about sex, relationships, birth control, STD prevention, etc., you can talk to your girls too.

Your whole family will be better off. And you don't have to separate the kids to talk about it either. Your boys and your girls will all be getting the same message, from both their parents.

It may be difficult, but it's doable, and no one's gonna die of embarrassment, either :-)

[let_us_trade]

It isn't a question of difficulty or embarrassment, not really. It's a question of knowing the people involved (which, let's be honest, you don't) and knowing what will work best for everyone. The general talks we've given each together but the side situations, those we let the kids decide who to talk to. I don't like the idea of my daughter engaging in that sort of activity and she knows that, but she also knows that if she ever got into trouble, she could come to me. She usually does for problems, in fact. There are just some things daughters tend to be more comfortable discussing with their mums and sons with their fathers and in my house, this is one of them.

[salts_theway]

If there's anything I can do, sir, let me know.

[let_us_trade]

Will do. Cheers.

[alltoseek]

Quit with the 'sir' thing on LJ! It's kinda creepy... :-)

[salts_theway]

Habit, sorry.

[salts_theway]

Also (phone hit send before I finished) why is it creepy?

[alltoseek]

it's prolly my fault I hang out on the kinkmeme too much; just get to thinking about who calls someone 'sir' ;-) I dunno, it creeps me out on LJ - don't know anyone else who calls anybody 'sir' on LJ.

[salts_theway]

oh, God no, it is in no way like that. I'll refrain from using sir, if it's going to set off the RPFers. I hadn't even thought about that.

I guess it's a sign of how long I've known him/had him as my boss at work that I didn't even think about it like that.

[ningen_demonai]

Considering she works for him, it makes sense for her to call him "sir". o/

[alltoseek]

Yeah, I know that, but we're not at work.

[ningen_demonai]

IDK, it'd be kinda like calling my professor "David" while not at uni. It just feels wrong.

[alltoseek]

Most people don't use their real names on LJ, so you wouldn't be calling him 'David' or 'Professor So-and-So'. And if he didn't want it constantly thrown in everyone's face that he's a professor (perhaps on LJ he want to be known for his art, or fanfic, not for his professional work) you wouldn't call him 'Professor' every sentence addressed to him either.

"Anything I can do to help, Professor?"
"Good on you, Professor!"
"Sorry to hear that, Professor."

Over on JF's journal, people don't constantly address him as 'Doctor', even though he is one.

And BTW, let_us_trade, I'd also have to stop reading every journal and comm that you and she may happen to comment on. Being in the same fandom, that's a lot of places!

But whatevs, she's gonna say what she wants to say. SIR!

[ningen_demonai]

Aheh, I kinda do that. |D;

But oh well, it's the interbuttz, people gonna do what they want~