And All That Jazz.

[lerhat]

Ugh, I woke up at nine am, and laid on my lazy arse until about noon. I wish I could sleep late

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[nameless_cricke]

Though I don't know you, I'd want to make friends with him, I mean, you say that he's fun to hang out and it's comfortable. You are sure that you are gay now(or are you bi?), so he isn't a threat to the relationship, but unless you can assure your girl of that and bolster up her confidence that he isn't a threat to her at all, then you can't really without your relationship becoming strained. She has to be fully okay and comfortable with it, and if she would go around you instead of talking to you about it, then it seems like you need to try more communication between each other. I mean she should feel comfortable telling you when she's not completely okay or is uneasy about something shouldn't she?

Of course you have to make sure he's not reading too much into renewing the friendship too. Sometimes they get over previous relationships.

[lerhat]

I'm gay. I was sure I was before him, and I still don't know what was going through my head when I was with him. I was never happy, and never liked it. I just did it because I was scared I guess. But now I KNOW that I am indeed gay and there is nothing I can ever do about it, nor do I want to do anything about it. I am happy with who I am now. I think I'm going to force her to talk about it with me tonight, and get her honest opinion about it all. You're totally right, there is no way it would work if she is even the least bit uncomfortable with it. Obviously I wouldn't hangout with him on a daily basis, like I used to before me and him dated, but once in a while would be fun.

Thanks for the advice. It helps to get an outside perspective sometimes.

[nameless_cricke]

Eh, a lot of people have that time in their life where they try even though they know better. I was that attempt for a friend of mine(that I haven't seen in ages, but not for that reason), it's like a last ditch, am I absolutely sure I can't do it the way everyone says I should kinda of effort, which inevitably ends up failing because it's a denying of oneself leading to deep down unhappiness, but you know that part

[lerhat]

I talked to her last night, she said she'd like to try but it would take a little while to feel completely comfortable. She said she did have fun hanging out with him yesterday, and she wanted to try. She did say that she doesn't know if she'll ever feel comfortable if it's just me and him hanging out. She said it's not because she doesn't trust me, she just wouldn't like it. But if it's the four of us, it's cool and if it's just him, Nikki, and me it's cool. So, I guess that's progress eh?

I assured her that there are no feelings for him of that nature in me. I never really liked/loved him in that way, and now I know that because now I really know what love feels like. I'm not sure what exactly it was between me and Devon, but it wasn't a real relationship. I hope that made her feel more secure, it seemed that it did.

[askingxalice]

nameless_cricke has pretty much said everything I wanted to, and they probably did it much more eloquently than I could.

But I honestly didn't notice any tension while we were out, and it was really nice to have a forth person in the group. Sarah mumbled something about 'Okay, Sarah, be nice.' before we got out of the car, but I figured she said it jokingly. :/ And it didn't seem like Devon was trying to make any more moves or anything, and it's been like. Three years since y'all were dating. There's no way it's not over it by now, and I really do think he just wants some more friends.

[lerhat]

Lol, you're eloquent enough. And yah, I didn't even notice tension between him and Sarah. It definantly didn't feel like he was making moves, I talked to him on Facebook last night and he said that he still has no friends in Louisiana, besides the one girl he dated other than me that broke his heart. He seemed lonely, a person needs friends. He even admitted that Sarah was cool, and that he may have been jealous of her before but that he is over that now and even misses her as a friend. I think he misses Nick most though, lol. He'll have to go to Haiti to hang with Nick tho.